Being Self Sufficient

It has been one of my goals to get to the point where I can "sarge" alone and end up with girls.

At first I advocated going out with friends and having fun. This used to put me in a great social mood. I would have no AA and be totally high energy. This was the past. After a while I realized that having friends around me actually screwed me more. Then I started to work alone and learned to get pass the fear of having no one to back me up. This is why guys are afraid to go out alone. They are afraid of being seen alone and all the community jargon doesn't help. Most the gurus are saying the same old crap they learned from Mystery. Have social proof etc.

I actually have a different argument. Being seen alone is not bad. It's only bad if you're uncomfortable. If you're relaxed and have a good vibe, girls will actually open you. Not saying girls will open you all the time but it they will here and there. Here and there is not good at all, so that's why you need to have to balls to make a move.

The hardest part working alone is definitely two sets but I use different strategies when I'm alone. I look for two sets where one guy has opened a girl and the other one is bored. These are golden opportunities. Only thing I have to do is open the girl and I'm in.

Another thing I look for is an open seat. In certain venues (Not going to say which, you have to figure that out in your own), having a seat next to your target will be the different between a friendly chat and a soild number.

Another things I'm looking for are sets where I can get into a powerful position. It's usually where I can lean against some thing. This will also make it easier to get a solid number because sets stick a lot better ones i'm locked in.

What I'm not looking for when I'm out alone are sets that are just standing around in walk ways or in the middle of no where. Sure, I have worked sets like this before but for the most part, they didn't go any where. I wont bother opening these sets unless other guys are talking to the girls and I can go and befriend them. Even then, these sets wont be the best because i wont be able to lock myself in a powerful way.

So what happens if I don't find a good set to open? I just chill by the bar and people watch. Watch for good opportunities to get in and close. I've gotten to a point where I can just smell which sets open and which wont. Some sets wont open right the moment i look at them but it will open 5 minutes later when the mood of the group changes or body position of certain group members changes. Some set will never open for me. Fuck them!!!!!! I wont waste my time with them. What I'm learning right now is not to work harder, but smarter.

In the end, no matter what people say, the best thing a guy can do is some to a point where if he opens enough sets, he'll get laid. If he gets enough numbers, he'll get laid.

Great article why all game is not inner game

http://approachanxiety.com/?p=62

One thing that stood out for me is "What has to change is your actions. What has to change is your habits."

This has been true for me but I see it in a different light. I'm always on auto pilot. Even in social interactions. It used to be that I would open and have fun. My sets would do well but I wasn't closing. It's like every night I went out, opened left and right, and leave empty handed. That was my auto pilot mode. I really had to take conscious steps to break out of it. I had to force myself to change my auto pilot mode and start closing. I'm still in auto pilot when it comes to day2s and so on. I still need to consciously tell myself, go on day2s, but it's hard. I hate sacrificing a day at the gym for a stupid day2.

"You will never have true confidence by telling yourself over and over and over that you are confident. You will never have confidence by reading a thousand books or going to a thousand workshops. The only way to get true confidence is by going out and doing it over and over. It doesn’t sound easy, does it? Maybe that’s the point."

Amen! Guys who believe in girls being already sold should read this over and over again. You can tell your self, "she wants to fuck me" to make yourself feel like the man, to make your self feel powerful, but in reality, being already sold doesn't matter shit. There is so much more you have to do from opening to close. I would argue that the guys who believes this doesn't get laid that much. If they did, they wouldn't be proud when a girl has high buying temperature. All of them have false confidcence.

Just like you'll never have true confidence in approaching until you do it a thousand times and you'll never be truly confident in pickup until you banged a shitload of women. There will always be doubts in your head about your abilities and how much choice you have with women. All of you, stop these delusions about already being sold and all game is inner game. If you don't have choice in women, you have no game and no amount of reframing can help you.

Forum Gurus

I haven't been online in a while and just read some forums. It's sad to say but I think I've gotten my dosage of Bullshit for the next couple of years.

Guys, leave these fucking forums!!!!!!! It's pathetic. It's filled with crap. If you have no wings, go there, find some cool wings and then don't go there anymore.

I checked all the forums. Charm school, VA as well as the local forums and the worse thing was about a guy who keeps fucking the same UG even though she's got a STD. How desperate can someones get? Why would a man of choice ever do that? Wait, it probably means he's got no choice. He is so desperate that he'll take any thing he can get.

This is a prime example about the quality of guys posting in forums. If I'd ever invent a cast system, I'd place him right below the primates. Wait, I take it back. Cast systems are bad. Sorry for my strange idea.

At the same time, forums can be good too. I've been part of them for a while and I still check them here and there when friends tell me about interesting posts. I've met some cool people as well as some creepy midgets body builders as a result of these forums. My advice for normal guys, if you want wings, contact some people, meet them and if any of them smell weird, DO NOT HANG OUT WITH THEM. If they seem normal, make friends and hang out. Just so you know, you've got to meet a lot of guys until you find some one normal. There is probably 1 cool guy for ever 9 retards.

Silence, it's golden.

One of the most overlooked things in a pick up is silence. Most guys think it's a bad thing and do their best to avoid those uncomfortable moments of silences. I used to hate it too. I did every thing in my power to avoid it and it meant being quick on my feet and PLOWing until my mouth falls off but not anymore.

Now, I open directly, full of commitment and get her involved in a conversation. After I talk to her for few minutes, I stop and just look at her. I have carried the burden of conversation until this point. It's time for her to do that. It's time for her to come up with the next lame question to ask me. Let her sweat a little bit. Nervousness and the pressure she is feeling is good. She will has to work for me and the more effort she puts in asking me questions, the better it is and the more committed she will be. No other guy will do this!

This is super important for guys who are in set for a while but has trouble getting solid numbers. The more effort she puts it, the more solid the number is. If the only thing you do is palm reading and talking about Britney Spears, good luck with the solid numbers.

The bad part about her asking questions during those silences is that those questions will be "yes" and "no" questions. When she asks those, i have to be able to come up with some thing more than "yes" or "no".

Ex:
Me: [looks at her]
She: [thinks of a question to ask me]
She: So did you eat Pizza in Italy.
Me: Yeah, I ate a ton of pizza. My favorite was surprisingly this tuna pizza. I know it sounds gross but I still remember it to this day. May be they put crack in it I mean it has to be really tasty and addicting if I remember it 12 years later.

What have I been up to lately, Nothing!!!!!!!!

I've been lazy and just finishing off some day2s. I want to lay them and meet some new ones but it's Friday. I just want to go out and try to pull a girl back home. Will I succeed, probably not, but I'm sure I'll meet some one or most likely get a solid number.

Also, I want to start doing some day game again. It's so much easier to pull hot girls in day time than nights. With hot girls I mean girls who are 21+ with careers, not the 18 year olds people try to pull at club 131. Yes, I know who you are :P Going for the easy prey because you've got no game.

And last but not least, I've been doing a great job at avoiding community guys. I'll continue to do that because most community guys are not that swanky. They should really work on being one of the cool guys. If they can hang on with other cool guys, they should start working on pulling some hotties.

Intruders

I was annoyed by this one community guy last week. He has major AA, thinks he is the shit, banged 4 fat chicks, talks and talks and he is a really bad wing to have because no girls with any value will like him. So he came into my set, pretended to know me so he can get in and sat down next to me in the couch. As soon as he sat down, I'm thinking in my head "Get the fuck away". Pick up is all about being flexible, thinking quick in your feet, so I immediately back turned and ignored him completely. The last thing I want is a chode in my set. Remember, secret society "However, rules state that if if the non-member is "creepy/scary" (kinos too much, leans in too much, asks dumb questions, tries too hard to impress, overqualifies), then the male member will be expected to return either alone or with another male member."

This is totally true. If you have a lot of skill, the worst thing that can happen to you is this. A guy with no skill comes in and ruins it for you. This happened to me many times and frankly, I'm sick of it. That's why I like to go alone these days but I have too many friends and that doesn't happen often. What makes things worse is after me back turning, he still sat there like a retard for 20 minutes and here and there he tried to talk to my target. That's unacceptable.

So who was this member? Try to make a guess but if I'll make one promise. If I ever see your rude self in set, I will come in too and chances are that I will get the girl you're talking to. It's time you taste your own medicine and learn to respect others.

Song of the week.

Fabolous ft Ne-Yo - You Make Me Better



Here are the Lyrics. They're insane. Whoever wrote this song is bad ass at what he/she does.


[INTRO: Ne-Yo, Fabolous]
Timbo.
Hey, Ne-Yo.
Say what? Low soul.
Hey, hey.

[CHORUS: Ne-Yo]
I'm a movement by myself.
But I'm a force when we're together.
Mami I'm good all by myself.
But baby you, you make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.
You make me better.

[Fabolous]
You plus me, it equals better math.
Ya boy a good look but, she my better half.
I'm already bossin', already flossin'.
But why I have the cake if it ain't got the sweet frostin'? (yep yep yep yep).
Keepin' me on my A game (what what what what).
Wit'out havin' the same name (that that that that that).
It may fling (but but but but).
But shawty, we burn it up.
It's sag in my swag, pimp in my step.
Daddy do the Gucci, mami intercepts.
Guess it's a G thing, whenever we swing.
I'ma need Coretta Scott, if I'm gon' be King.

[CHORUS]

[Ne-Yo]
First thing's first, I does what I do.
But everything I am, she's my improve.
I'm already boss, I'm already fly.
But if I'm a star, she is the sky (ahh ahh ahh).
And when I feel like I'm on top (she she she).
She give me reason to not stop (eh eh eh eh eh).
And though I'm hot (too too too).
Together we burn it up.

[Fabolous]
The caked up cut, the cleaned up ice.
The shawty come around, I clean up nice.
Diamond McDuo, Batman, Robin.
Whoever don't like it, it's that man problem (eh eh eh).
And when I feel like I'm tired (ma ma ma).
Mami be takin' me higher (ah ah ah ah ah).
I'm on fire (but but but).
But shawty we burn it up.

[CHORUS]

[Voices]
Inside every great man, you can find a woman like a soldier holdin' him down.

[Fabolous]
And she treats me like a dawg, watches for the hit.
Checks where I go, even watches who I'm wit.
The right when I'm wrong, so I never slip.
Show me how to move, that's why I never trip.
And baby girl, you so major, they should front-page ya (front page ya).
God bless the parents who made ya (who made ya).
Middle fingered anybody who hate the,
Way that we burn it up.

[CHORUS]

[Fabolous speaking]
Yeah baby, them lames you playin' wit.
They gon' put you down.
We tryin' to compliment ya, you know?
Make it better.
Top-notch Tim.
Nice-look Ne-Yo.
Livin' good low soul.
They ask you how you doin' now, tell 'em better 'den them.
Ha ha ha ha ha ha.

[CHORUS]

The Aura of a Player

It's when large percentage of the girls go nuts with their hair after they meet you. They throw IOIs like crazy. If met through a friend from social circle (or a safe way in), the overwhelming majority of girls will do this.

It's when you talk and they turn to their friend and say "he is good".

It's when they accuse you of being a player.

The best compliment a girl can give me is to call me a "Player". I love this and it's starting to happen quiet often to me now. Then again, it might be a fluke. I'll wait and see how often this happens before I get a big head.

Weight Loss Meter

Woke up today weighing in at 194 pounds and also dehydrated. Funny thing is that if I didn't drink or go out this weekend, I would have been around 192.5 or so. I love/hate the weekends. Love it because I always meet a girl and hate it because I always gain a pound or two.

I'll try to cut down on my eating and drinking next weekend and really push to go down to around 191. My ideal weight would be around 180 pounds. If I drop to 170, I'll be shredded.

A joke to start this weekend.

I love this. Sarah Silverman destroys on Paris and I have nothing against Paris. I actually think that she is pretty cool.

Don't be another community guy

I recently heard of a funny story. It's funny and sad. A community guy was in set and he ran into a non responsive girl. Of course, him being a total social retard, he said to her "You're boring".

This is not a fly thing to do. Boy, if I got a penny every time i saw some thing retarded like that, i'd have enough money to buy one of you a drink. Of course, that would break another pathetic community rule, so I wouldn't do that (sigh).

This is why community guys never improve and one of the reasons I decided to stay away from them. Guys really need to learn how to be normal before reading a book about seduction and really think twice about throwing negs. I've heard too many stories of these idiots getting kicked out of clubs. At the same time, I've done things like this too and I can totally relate to it. I have messed up on many different occasions but after a while, I developed social calibration and this shit never happened.

Recently I read a TD article where he said that after a while, your social skills will be at a point where no one can keep up with you. Every thing you say is so socially calibrated and this is so true. I've personally witnessed this when I was helping the SocialHitchHiker in his bootcamps. The things that comes out of his mouth are really amazing that's one reason why I love that guy. Every time we hang out, I get newer insights into things.

Here is an example of his social calibration:

Single Mom: .... and that why I don't go out very often because I don't have much time.

SocialHitchHiker: I know what you're talking about. I used to date a single mom and she was really busy with her kids. She had to cook for them and drop them of to school and it was always special when she found some time to go out. [The delivery of this was amazing]

Single Mom: [Feel understood, she feels special and opens up to him even more]

Vibe: [Thinking "damn, I should have said that". This is where I gained a deeper understanding about what social calibration is and ever since then, i've been trying to say things that are socially to the point. This is also another proof that all game is not inner game.]

Calibration is another reason why guys who use routines tend to do horribly. Most community guys are horribly socially calibrated and when a person like that uses routines, they spit out the routine at bad times and creep out every one.

My point is, learn how to offer social value by making every thing a "hit". I'm not there yet but doing my best to get there. Do this and all the girls in your social circle will love you and you'll be able to at least #close every time you go out.

Song of the week.

It's been about a week and again, it's time for the song of the week. This one is from Cascada - Everytime We Touch. I think she is German and just to let you guy on a juicy secret, Awesome, Seattle's biggest asshole is in love with this song. He has a soft heart after all and i think he's gonna hate me for publicly stating this....muahahahahahah





I still hear your voice, when you sleep next to me.
I still feel your touch in my dreams.
Forgive me my weakness, but I don't know why
Without you it's hard to survive.

'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling.
And every time we kiss I swear I could fly.
Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last.
Need you by my side.
'Cause every time we touch, I feel this static.
And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky.
Can't you hear my heart beat so...
I can't let you go.
Want you in my life.

Your arms are my castle, your heart is my sky.
They wipe away tears that I cry.

The good and the bad times, we've been through them all.
You make me rise when I fall.

'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling.
And every time we kiss I swear I could fly.
Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last.
Need you by my side.
'Cause every time we touch, I feel this static.
And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky.
Can't you hear my heart beat so...
I can't let you go.
Want you in my life.

'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling.
And every time we kiss I swear I could fly.
Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last.
Need you by my side.

Workout Plan

I started my workout program last Monday after I realized that I've gained too much weight from partying too much. Here is a quick update of how things went.

Monday: Did some cardio in the morning for 30 minutes, if I remember correctly. Cardio in an empty stomach is the best.

Tuesday: Went to my boxing class. Boxed for 2 hours straight and almost puked. On top of that, my instructor didn't open the windows and the class was full and it was about 90 fucking degrees inside. After a while, I felt so dizzy. I started seeing doubles and that's when I said "fuck it" and left the class. I went outside and sat for a good 15 minutes until I stopped seeing doubles. It was actually scary.

Wednesday: Didn't plan on doing cardio but had to help an old friend move his Suzuki 750. He went on a business trip and none of his friends could ride a motorcycle. So I had to move it from the storage unit to outside and his bike was fucking heavy. I was sweating like a pig! J, if you're reading this, you better take me out to dinner when you come back. Make sure you wear a nice suite and open all the doors for me too because it was a pain in the ass. You'll will be my bitch for that night :)

Thursday: Boxing. That class nearly killed me again. My stomach was sore for few days. Damn those crunches.

Friday: Day off

Saturday: Went to the gym and got lazy and ended up doing my neck

Sunday: Cardio morning and evening

Monday: Day off

It's Tuesday and I'm at 196 pounds. By next weekend, I'll probably be below 195.

My struggle with the SOIs:

I didn't know any thing about SOIs until I took the Charisma Arts bootcamp and it has been a long struggle for me to really understand SOIs. They can be as blunt as saying "I find your lust for skydiving really sexy about you. I'm so sick at all these girls who stay home and do nothing and it's a breath of fresh air to talk to some one who is different" By the way, dropping a well calibrated SOI like that is just like dropping a nuke. It'll get attraction. Lots of it and it will change the way she will interact with me. I love it.

At the same time, SOIs can be different. I don't have to tell her she is sexy for her to know that I'm after a relationship that's romantic. There are ways to convey that. Here is an example of a SOI that doesn't have the word sexy:

She: .... and when I was in Italy, I went to Venice and took a trip on the boat and took pictures of all the historical buildings.

Vibe: That's wonderful. I'd be scared to those ride one of those small boats because they might tip over and I'll end up in the dirty water and catch a disease but it's nice to meet a girl who travels a lot. I totally love that. I'm gonna have to make a move on you but I've been to Italy too...... [In this situation, I showed her my sexual interest by telling her thant I'm gonna make a move on her. She will respond to me differently from that point on if she understands my SOI.]

During the bootcamp, they told me to find a unique quality about her and SOI and that's not true. The most important factor in delivering a SOI is not her unique quality. The most important part is for me to grab my balls and do it with 100% congruency. If I really believe that she is the most beautiful girl on earth, I can walk up to her and say:

Vibe: "Excuse me. I'm standing over there and I couldn't help but to notice you. You're the most beautiful girl I've ever seen"

She: Melts

In this case, she knows what I'm after and she would accept the SOI because I'm totally congruent in the way I delivered it. That being said, I don't really like to SOI women on their beauty, unless the approach is done in day time while she is walking. I'd rather find a higher value in her and show my interest in her based on her higher value.

So the second important component of a SOI is for her to have a higher value. A higher value could be that she loves to pain during weekend or that she fells happy when she cuts some ones hair and gives them a new look.

Lastly, when delivering a SOI, the most important thing is not seek her reaction. What I do is make my intentions clear and keep talking.

Ex: I love the fact that you take your weekends off and go to different thrift stores to find cool stuff. That's sexy. I usually go to a mall ever few weeks and do the same thing but I'm looking for cool graphic T-Shirts.

A joke, to start the weekend

A man breaks into a house to look for money and guns. Inside, he finds a young couple in bed. He orders the guy out of bed and ties him to a chair. While tying the homeowner's wife to the bed the convict gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom.

While he's in there, the husband whispers over to his wife: "Listen, this guy is an escaped convict. Look at his clothes! He's probably spent a lot of time in jail and hasn't seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck.

If he wants sex, don't resist, don't complain...do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is obviously very dangerous. If he gets angry, he'll kill us both. Be strong, honey. I love you!"

His wife responds: "He wasn't kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear. He told me that he's gay, thinks you're cute, and asked if we had any Vaseline. I told him it was in the bathroom. Be strong honey. I love you, too."

State managment -- Kill the Aproach Anxeit

One thing that affects a pick-up the most for me is the state I'm in. If I'm in a great state, I will do incredibly good. I have no AA (Approach Anxiety) and I bring every one around me up. If I'm in a shitty state, I get some AA, I'm not too expressive and my sets don't go the way I want them to.

I have two strategies for handling my state. One is to invite my friends to pre-funk at my place before going out. I love my friends outside the community. They don't talk game, we have inside jokes, we make fun of each other, go out and pick up chicks. It's easy and simple. When I'm with them, I'm happy and in an amazing social mood. It's a snowball effect. One makes a joke, everyone laughs and then some one else makes a joke and every one laughs. All that laughter has the snowball affect lifing the mood of the whole group, giving all of us social super powers.

But there are some times where I like to go out alone as well. In this situation, I don't have the luxury of having kick ass friends. In this situation, I blast music, take a shot of Sky Vodca and chase it down with a redbull. Then I take another shot and mix it up with the redbull. Just before I leave my house or car, I finish the redbull. close my eyes and listen to this song by Wisin Y Yandel called Rakata. It makes me feel like the shit and then I slowly open my eyes and wolla, I'm in state.

Here is the video:

School of Vibe

I'm in the process of figuring out what I exactly do in the field and documenting my method. I will try to update this section until the end of this year and exactly figure out what I do. Note: This is my method. These are the things I do and it'll probably wont work for you.

Vibe Method:

Pre-game:

• My Story
  
• How I get into state

Open:

Build your group and have fun:

• Disqualification
• Push-Pulls

Mini-isolate and bring out the best in her:

SOI:

• My Struggle With SOIs
  

Relationship situation:

Sexual Barriers:

Number close or more:

Total time: About 20-25 minutes.

Song of the week

I'm usually bored at my job, so I love to kill my time by listening to songs on youtube.com. Youtube is probably my second favorite site, first one being gmail and myspace at number 3 and this blog would be number 4.

But after a while, listening to the same songs get really old, so I decided to look for this Arabic song called habibi, but I discovered some thing much cooler. It's this female group called Milk & Honey and I'm in love with them. It consist of two girl, one who is probably Arabic and the other one, a German blond. Their songs has lyrics in French, Arabic and English.

The dark-haired girl is so HOT in this video. I'd love to do... never mind. There are kids who are reading this blog. I don't want them to read things that are illegal in the civilized world. If I see a girl like her, I would soooo fucking approach her and make her mine.




Here are the lyrics:


Habibi Je t'aime
(Tu es mon roi)
Et je suis ta reine
(Milk and Honey)

Verse 1:
Shagali bali ta3abli hali 3asabli albi w hobi huwa amani huwa makani huwa habibi ou albi kalamni tani la tkun anani faker fe shoi ou orbi saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi

Chorus:
Habibi Je T'aime
Et Je Suis Ta Reine

Verse 2:
I like the way you pay me attention and the way you give me affection
Can't you feel my hot temptation don't you want to know my attention

Bridge:
Love and passion for all the nation, love and passion bring you servation ( 2 mal)

Chorus:
Habibi Je T'aime
(Tu es mon roi)
Et Je Suis Ta Reine
(Ecoute moi)
Come with me I promise you my love is true its now or never
Come with me I promise you my love is true

verse 1:
Shagali bali ta3abli hali 3asabli albi w hobi huwa amani huwa makani huwa habibi ou albi kalamni tani la tkun anani faker fe shoi ou orbi saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi

Chorus:
Habibi Je T'aime
Et Je Suis Ta Reine

verse 3:
All the games that drive me crazy, just make me wanna be your lady
The way your playing with me then I know the woman to be
albi albi hobi hobi kunte inta ha terbah
albi,albi albi hobi hobi do you want milk and honey (kuss)

chorus:
habibi
Je t'aime
(Tu es mon roi)
Et je suis ta Reine
(Ecoute moi)
come with me I promise you my love is true its now or never
come with me I promise you my love is true

verse1:
Shagali bali ta3abli hali 3asabli albi w hobi huwa amani huwa makani huwa habibi ou albi kalamni tani la tkun anani faker fe shoi ou orbi saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi

Verse4:
Du fond du coeur, chéri je t'aime
dans ton royaume je serais ta reine,
...your the owner of my heart,
And we’ll never be apart, promise you belong to me… to eternity

chorus:
habibi Je t'aime
(Tu es mon roi)
Et je suis ta Reine
(Ecoute moi)
come with me I promise you my love is true its now or never
come with me I promise you my love is true

habibi
Je t'aime
(Tu es mon roi)
Et je suis ta Reine
your the owner of my heart,
And we’ll never be apart, promise you belong to me…to eternity
saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi


Then I saw this video. The blond looks hotter. What can I say, I have a thing for girls with curly hair. She reminds me of Shakira in Whenever, whenever.

Time to loose some weight again:

Woke up today and realized that I've gained a good 6 pounds in the last 3 weeks (FUCK). That's what happens to me when I work with outgoing coworkers. All of them want to get Indian food or Asian food for lunch and I get peer pressured into going with them. On top of that, I try to go out 3 times a week and that means consuming a shitload of calories. I had it enough of that. I'm going back to doing 30 minutes of cardio right after waking up. On top of that, I'll do 2 hours of martial arts. Time to loose about 15 pounds in the next 6 weeks and it'll be a piece of cake.


Loosing weight is easy. I've been working out since I was in high school and know my body really well. I can feel when I'm loosing weight and when I'm gaining weight. I can adjust my diet to the point where I can loose 2 pounds every week easily.

One thing that sucks about fast weight loss by doing really intense workouts of boxing and kickboxing is the strain it puts on my immune system. A lot of times, I end up catching a cough and a slight fever after 2-3 weeks of intense workouts. Hopefully, it'll be different this time. I'm planning on loading up on Vitamins and Echinichea and ask the doctor for advice of I get symptoms of a fever or cold. Plus I have a good 110 hours or sick leave and want to quit my job in the next 6 months. I need to calling in sick more often and cash in those hours.

I will definitly blog more about weight loss and martial arts in the next few weeks. Whatever is going on in my life, I'll blog about. Time to get my fatass back to the gym.

That being said, my start weight is 199.

Getting deeper into push/pull

I'm a huge fan of small chunking things into my game and now I'm really pushing it with the push/pulls. They are great and I'm learning really how to push the boundaries. Say some thing rude, wait for a shocked reaction in her face, then pull her back in. The shocked reaction in her face should only last for a split second and when I pull her back in, I get a big laugh. It really hits a girl, triggering her positive and negative emotions.

Girl: bla bla bal and that's the reason why I've got a puppy.
Vibe: You're a nice girl. I could never fuck you.
Girl: [Shocked look in her face]
Vibe: I would make love to you
Girl: Huge laugh

I can't emphasize the important of push pulls. Mystery does a lot of them and so does Juggler. With me, I improve the push/pulls, and i really have to be in state to do them. For newbies, I recommend them sticking to basic Juggler style push/pulls.

Ex: I don't date blonds, but I'll make an exception for you.

For more advanced guys, who can think on their head quickly, I recommend to really push it with the push pulls. With that I mean, do borderline negs and pull her back in.

Ex:
Vibe: You've got some lipstick in your teeth. (neg)
Girl: [Shocked look]
Vibe: but I love the way put yourself together. You really know a lot about fashion. I like that about you. Where do you go shopping (Vacuum)

That being said, if anyone wants to be a true master of push/pulls, he has to understand what microcalibration is. When I'm in set, I can just feel if I'm pushing too much or pulling her too much and I suspect that's just the beginning. I'm not FULLY calibrated on how much I can push and how much I can pull. It'll take time but I can get away with some nasty push/pulls and it's a REALLY powerful tool that will definitely jump your game to a different level.

Song of the week

Timbaland - The Way I Are



Lyrics

(Yeah, Yeah) x3

[Verse 1 - Timbaland]
I ain't got no money
I ain't got no car to take you on a date
I can't even buy you flowers
But together we be the perfect soulmates
Talk to me girl

(Oh) Baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me
If we go dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free
We can work without the perks just you and me
Thug it out 'til we get it right

[Chorus] - Keri Hilson & (D.O.E)
Baby you could strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are
(I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped
Can you handle me the way I are? )
I don't need the cheese, or the car keys
Boy I like you just the way you are
Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like, I like, I like...

[Verse 2 - Timbaland]
I ain't got no Visa
I ain't got no Red American Express
We can't go nowhere exotic
It don't matter 'cause I'm the one that loves you best

Talk to me girl

[Bridge 2 - Keri Hilson]
Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me
If we dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free
We can work without the perks just you and me
Thug it out 'til we get it right

[Chorus] - Keri Hilson & (D.O.E)
Baby you can strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are
(I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped
Can you handle me the way I are? )
I don't need the cheese or the car keys
Boy I like you just the way you are
Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are

[Verse 3 - D.O.E.]
Baby girl, I don't got a huge ol' house I rent a room in a house
Listen baby girl, I ain't got a motorboat but I can float ya boat
So listen baby girl, once you get a dose of D.O.E. you gon' want some mo'
So listen baby girl, when I'm naked I want you there, want you there, yeah.

Yo my money ain't Luth like felling 'em,
And it's really not quite Moris Allison
Your body ain't Pamela Anderson
It's a struggle just to get you in the caravan

So, Listen baby girl, before I let you lose a pound, I'll buy a bigger car
I love you just the way you are, The way you are.

Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me
If we go dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free
We can work without the perks just you and me
Thug it out 'til we get it right

Baby you can strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are
(I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped
Can you handle me the way I are? ) x2

I don't need the cheese or the car keys
Boy I like you just the way you are
Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are


Here is the remix

LR: Twilight Badonkadonk

One of my biggest weaknesses is a girl with a badonkadonk aka a nice bootay!!!!! Every time I see that, I fall in lust with her. I can't help it. I'm attracted to that and I want to do every thing in my power to posses her. It's a natural response.

Anyways, lets get back to the story. I was at Twilight, a club that tends to be a cockfest a lot of times but it does have few cute ethnic chicks. Mostly Latinas, Indian's and Mixed girls.

I was talking to a friend of a friend and saw these two girls walking. It was a moving set but I opened. Went in strong & direct, the set hooked, and I introduced the obstacle to the guy I was talking to. We're both in.

Dance clubs are not a place to talk, so I immediate built a tiny bit of rapport and make them go and dance with me. We dance around and then go to the bar, where I notice this other cute girl giving me the eye. I leave my target by the bar, because some other guy started to chat with her then and I didn't want to compete with him. Looks like she was into him as well.

So I walk over to the other girl and chat with her for a little bit. Number close her and return to my girl. She is still talking to the same random dude. I go in and get her attention. There is no way I'm gonna loose this girl to some random guy. Not this time! I talk to her for a little bit and number close her and leave her to get more numbers.

Later on the night I see her again and she is still with the same guy. I think he tried to take her back home but it didn't work. So I chat with some other people and look at her again. This time she is by herself, standing next to her friend. I go in again, give her a hug and start running verbal diarrhea, aka the Juggler method. End up kissing her before I leave home.

The next day, I text back and forth with all the girls I met and set up the day2s. Set a day2 with her on Sunday. Damn logistics. Usually I try to set up the day2 ASAP but we were both busy so it had to be a week late.

Around Saturday she calls me back and asks what my plans are. HINT: She wants to see me sooner. So I tell her than I'm hungry and want to grab a late lunch. She agrees and I tell her to come and pick me up.

She arrives, we go and grab some Thai food and drove around Seattle hitting up antique stores. Every time I go on a day2, I don't finish my meal. I take some thing to go, because that way I can say "My food might spoil. I need to put it in my fridge." Great excuse to take her back home.

At my place, we sit at my coffee table and she looks around the window. I have the most amazing view of Seattle. I go behind her and give her a hug and start smelling the back of her neck. She gets turned on. Slowly, I move closer to her mouth and kiss her lightly and keep smelling the back of her neck again. Then I start to tell her how I'm gonna kiss her and describe how we are going to have sex. The key here is to describe every thing in vivid detail.

Ex: I will unbutton your belt buckle and pull your pants down until I see your panties. Then I will kiss you right above your thigh and you will make a slight moan..... Read some Romance novels and this shit will be really easy and the rest is history :)

Spin me around

I'm feeling a little gay now. This song just hit the spot.



God, I wish I was born in the 1970s! Would have loved to dance and spin around to this gay song. Actually, I take it back. It would suck to be in the 30s and do this stupid PU bullshit. Talk about having a midlife crisis.

Calling the shots

Generally, if there is not enough rapport and you haven't day2ed her yet, never let the girl call the shots. This is what happened to me. I asked my girl to meet up with me and get some drinks and some food. She agreed, texted me this.

"That might be a possibility. I have a tentative appt w my mentor but he always cancles so ill let u know 4 sure later on.

At first this looks good but it's not really. The reason is because she will let me know later on :( I was being a dumb ass and agreed and she ended up not calling me. What I should have done is text her some thing like this:

"Actually, I'm not 100% sure about my schedule either. I'll hit up you after I get off work. Later hun :)"

Now control is in my hand and if I feel like going out, I can always call her. Simple conversational technique yet powerful.

Getting overworked with day2s.

Lately I've been really shallow and just focusing on SNP (Same Night Pussy) and I didn't have any luck with it, so I'm going back to the basics. Open -> Get number -> Day2 -> Wild Monkey Sex -> May be relationship. Throwing after parties is easy because most girls don't want to go home around 1am. If they meet a bunch of cool guys, they're down to party more but pulling a single girl back to my place is not that easy. I don't have the calibration to do that. I could pull her outside but I don't know exactly how to work the situation to take her home. My guess would be to stay in set for a while, built more rapport and then go home with her. There are different strategies and I'm getting used to them and working alone makes things a little harder too.

My goal with the SNP is to be able to do it every weekend. I think I'll get to this point sooner or later.

That being said, this weekend was amazing. I went out with the specific intention of getting one day2 for next week. I shit myself when I found out that I met 5 cool girls that could eventually lead to many nights of monkey love and may be even a relationship. This has totally rocked my confidence. I always knew that I could find a day2 every time I go out but not 5 girls in 2 days!!!!! THAT'S FUCKING INSANE.

So as of now (Tuesday, August 21) my schedule looks like this:

TU: Possible Date
WE: Day3 from a girl who gave me major LMR
TH: Date
FR: Having fun with my boys
SA: Bday party with my boys (may be squeeze a day2 in the afternoon)
SU: Date
MO: Time off (I need to be alone but I'm sure I could find a date here as well)

I feel like a slut now :*(

A Journey - From AFC to PUA

I was going through my old posts and realized that I don't agree with a lot of them. As we evolve, go to different levels, we have to abandon the old ideas and embrace new ones.

I've come from a long way. Got into the community exactly a year and half ago. Back then, I'd rather get beaten up than approach a woman. It was a hard thing to do. I've mastered that pretty quickly, but the next six months were hard. I talked many to girls I didn't really like and nothing went any where. I barely got a phone number.

I couldn't take it anymore. Day gamed for 30 days straight but with no luck. The frustration in me grew, day by day and I finally decided to go and take a bootcamp. Back then, I didn't have that much money and Charisma Arts offered a bootcamp. I took it.

Had a decent experience in the bootcamp. Couldn't really do any thing Friday night. I was too confused. The worst part was opening with a friendly vibe because I didn't know how to smile and on top of that, I had a shitty voice. I didn't speak from the diaphragm. I spoke from my mouth and my voice wasn't loud in certain areas of the venue. Did a little better Saturday at the bookstore. I was barely starting to understand what relate/reward is (I didn't fully understand what this is until a year later). Saturday however, I did good. Ended up with a kiss close and 2 numbers. All of them flaked on me :)

For the next few months, I would go out and practice certain techniques such as DQs and Push Pulls. Slowly but surely, every thing was coming into place. I learned how to drop SOIs and how to smile but still no success in terms of a lot of lays from cold approach. Luckily for me, I've got decent at gaming on myspace so I knew if I wanted to, I could find some one to fuck.


I was still unhappy with my success. I saw newbies coming in and getting a lay after a month. I still couldn't really do it and I've been at this for 10 months now. Finally I said "FUCK IT. I had it with the game. I'm wont be in there anymore". So now when I went out, I didn't try to relate/reward. I didn't try to push pull or do any of that crap. Only thing I did was to get drunk with my friends and have fun. But some thing amazing happened. Every thing started to go right for me. I was talking to women non stop and I was having really fun interactions with them. On top of that, I was loosing a lot of weight and started to dress better. I became a happier person and that really reflected in the way I was communicating to people. I had too much fun now and when I have too much fun, I have no approach anxiety. Not even a little bit. I could see big groups of girls and wouldn't even hesitate to approach them. It was easy. I started to be myself. I didn't give a shit if I got blown out of set because deep down, I knew that if some one spoke to me long enough, they would like me. In community jargon, this is know as Assuming Attraction.

Also, by this time I was pulling irregular day2s and I realized that the community was not for me. I started to call my normal friends up and hang out with them more. But even then, I still had one major sticking point and it was getting the phone number but this was an easy cure. I told myself, the worse thing she can do is say "no" when I ask and started asking every girl for her number. Two weeks later, I was getting about 3 numbers every time I went out and I was able to pull one day2 a week. This is also the point where I realized that I didn't have any problem with meeting women anymore. I have become quote on quotes, a "PUA". Of course, I don't really subscribe to community language anymore, so I still see myself as a guy who goes out and haves fun but at the same time, it is easy to describe things using community terms, so I still use them.

Progress

November, December, and January were the months where I put myself out the most. That's when I became a "Star Approacher", as one of my friends would call it.

January, February, March and April is where I started to dress better. I can finally say, that I understand fashion now. I can dress and convey a unique personality. I know how to stand out from the barrage of bore that awaits a woman every time she goes out.

Now my game is going through a new revelation. In my opinion, the most important and the most powerful so far. My inner game is changing at a fast rate. It's almost a complete change. I realize how much women chase me and how good I am. It all started after I sat down with a couple of friends late at night and talked. After that I was able to see what I was doing wrong. As a direct result of the change in inner game, I'm starting to get one day2 per week. A little scared now because I'm starting to have choice with women.

Ambition and Potential

Mystery and Style talks about this a lot. One thing a guy should demonstrate is having ambition and potential. According to them, girls are like talent scouts. They look for guys who have potential and ambition and invest in them.

I'm coming from a Juggler background and for the longest time, I flat out rejected this idea. Why should I demonstrate I have those abilities. Demonstrating anything to a girl makes you come from the frame of you being low value. So whenever it came time to demonstrate a higher value, I always tried to disqualify myself but not anymore.

Yesterday I realized that not showing ambition and potential to a girl in a subtle way will make her loose attraction towards me. I'm actually glad it happened because I didn't really like her that much in the first place. The more I told her what a slacker I was at work, the more I turned off her attraction switches. It was interesting to see and from now on, when she asks what I do, I'll answer the question and show her that I have ambition and talent. This totally goes against what I believe because I hate to show people I have stuff but this will totally help me with HB8s and HB9s, so I'll do it. Of course I will not see it as DHVing. I'll see it as me being ambitious and wanting to quit my job because I'm looking for better opportunities, which is actually the truth.

Short term goal

A week ago I was asked a question by someone and I didn't really know the answer for it. The question was: "what do you want out of this, in the short run?" It was a hard question because on one side, I want to be that horny dog who goes and fucks everyone in the vicinity but at the same time, I would love to find a woman I desire and quit the whole PU scene.

It was kind of a tough decision to make but I've made up my mind. Call me insecure, call me an asshole, call me every thing anyone wants. My goal in the next 6 months is to lay as many girls as possible, just so I know I have done it :)

First Quarter Reflections

I feel great and this year has been even better. I've lost a lot of weight. Give me a month or two and I'll be in peak condition.

All the hard work I did on getting a style that conveys a certain look, an identity, a sexy stereotype as Brad P calls it, is heading towards completion. I know exactly what my style is and know how to convey it. It's just a matter of finding the right clothes now.

My game has become tight and it will only get better. I'm calibrated like no other. I cut almost all the negative people I know.

Last but not least, the new lair is off to a great start. I like every one there. No drama and no exaggerated field reports. No insecure little boys and it is well ran. I can't wait to meet and sarge with every one.

Summer time is coming up and it's time create a new lounge, the Space Needle Lounge. So far, every girl seem to love it :)

A little plan for the next few months

I'm planning on going on a lot of day2s so I have to get my shit together. Finally washed my car and got some part of my house cleaned up. Still need to get up my bar table assembled and clean up the kitchen, bathroom and bed room.

My Schedule will look like this. Th, Fr and Saturday has to be for fresh meat, but if it gets down to it, I'll do day2s on Sunday through - Th. Have an overall plan what to do with day2s. I'll try to keep things close to my place because I just hate driving. Bouncing is also easier when you're close to where I live.

Time to go and have some fun. I can already feel that the next few month will be exciting. Summer in Seattle is just fun.

Laters....

When I first listened to this video, I was dieing on the floor laughing. Sacha Baron aka Ali G is definitely a creative person and even better at clowning David and Victoria Beckham. I personally don't think Victoria Beckham is hot but she's does got some cute facial expressions that makes her look inviting and friendly.

Value

Almost all people I've met in the community from the old lair didn't have any value at all. The funny this is that they thought they had value. They could see that other people didn't have any value but couldn't see their own short-comings. They were all delusional but then it hit me. Am I delusional as well? After taking a hard look at myself I noticed that I was delusional as well. I thought I had value but not enough apparently. That's why I've gotten shut down at Amber so many times. With value here I mean perceived value. The value people assume you have when they make a first impression. If a girl writes you off the second she sees you, then you're pretty much toast. Good luck turning it around.

If you want to see how much value you have, go to Amber on a Saturday night and stand next to a tall, good looking guy who is well built with good BL. I have done that and it wasn't

Using Push/Pull while SOIing

Here are some examples of push/pull SOI I came up with. I'll go and practice them in the field and see how it goes. Also, i'll go and read swingcat's stuff as well. Obviously his push/pulls are crazy.

Example 1

Make her do some thing

Girl: and the blond said bla bla bla bal bal
Vibe: (laugh) You know, I really hate laughing at blonds but the way you said it was so sexy. I just couldn't help myself. There goes my new years resolution about not laughing at blonds. Ok tell me another one smile

or if it's not a blond joke.

Vibe: You know, that joke was so horrible tongue but the way you said it was so sexy. I just couldn't help but to laugh. Looks like we've got a girl with a sense of humor. Are you a keeper wink

EXAMPLE 2:

She is mean to you during opening

SOI: You, at first I thought you were an ass because you did XXXXXXX but I find it sexy how adventurous you're and how good of a conversationalist you're. I'm adding you to Vibes friends list.

If you feel like you've pulled her too much here, you can always do some thing like:

"but if you don't leave me any comments, I'm gonna kick you off that list. I work like myspace".


EXAMPLE 3:

You're jealous about a certain quality she has

Girl: bla bla bla and I've been writing ever since then and got a 4.0 in my class.
Vibe: I HATE you wink It's not fair that you're such a good writer. That's so sexy, I can't even write two complete sentences smile


EXAMPLE 4:

Tell her one of her items she wears is weird but how every thing makes sense after she explains more about how things go together.

Girl: bla bla bla and that's why I wore them.
Vibe: You know, at first I saw your boots and thought this girl is crazy for wearing them things, but now I understand how you dress and what you're trying to express and it's sexy how you put every thing together.


EXAMPLE 5:

My first impression of you was wrong

Girl: bla bla bla bla bal I volunteer after work to help the little kids.
Vibe: At first I thought you were one of those mean girls that shoot everyone and every thing down and I was intimidated by your posture [mimic it in a funny way] but you have such a big heart and it's so sexy how you like to take your free time and help out those little buggers.


EXAMPLE 6:

She is breaking your stereotypes

Vibe: I always thought violin players were so friggin boring but I was wrong. You're one of the most exciting and passionate people I talked in a while. Matter of fact, I find your passion towards playing the violin is very attractive about you.

Game Factors:

Things outside my control:

- Male to female ratio. If the ratio is fucked, hooking sets will become very hard, yet alone running game.
- Atmosphere of the place. The classier the place, the harder it is to hook sets. I find college bars to be the easiest while high class cock fests to be the worse place.
- Older women are easier than younger ones.
- Secure, confident girls are easier to game than the insecure ones.
- Smarter girls are easier to game than the dumb ones.

Things in my control:

3 Most important factors in bars and clubs that in my control are preseletion, social proof and a warm vibe. Nothing can come close to these three.

- Preselection: Had some experience with this. Saturday I opened those girls who are walking by using the fat chick who was with me. She had a cool personality. I should definitely use this to my advantage!
- Social proof: Opened those to HB white girls using social proof and preselection I guess.
- Vibe: Have plenty of experience with this. Having a cool, fun vibe will put people at ease.

Clothing

Believe it or not, clothing can have a dramatic affect on your game. I didn't really believe it at first but now I do. Everyone talks about it so I'm surprised why I haven't pick this one up. I realized that some of my friends with less game than me get great reactions when they're wearing nice clothes and a lot worse reactions when they're wearing not so cool stuff. With clothing, there are several components you want to look at.

First there are different looks and you need a look that is congruent with you. Here are some examples of looks: Gothic, preppy, gangster, classy, cowboy, surfer, artsy, sporty and the things go on.

On top of that, there are things like who you are. These are the things in your identity. Are you a bad boy, business man, a family guy, a pro athlete, a body builder, a dancer and so on.

For me, on the identity I picked the bad boy. I'm into martial arts, riding bikes, not afraid to get into fights, and a lot of things that I would consider to be bad boy. But I'm not a bad boy completely. I also identify with things like a guy who is doing well for him and may be a tad bit business oriented. As for the look, I identified with classy and the look I absolutely hate is the gangster look.

So what I did is to put those things together. I started to buy nice shirts and slacks and dress up shoes. Nice watch and some chains for the neck. Dress classy but change it a tad bit to look sexual/bad boyish. I really love this look and hopefully I'll be able to understand more about fashion sooner. This is still very new for me. I want to see how people will react to me after I have fully integrated my new look because my dress code will be congruent with who I am, hopefully :)

It looks like this Pick-Up thing is more than just picking up women. I'm definitely becoming a better person :)