Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Calling the shots

Generally, if there is not enough rapport and you haven't day2ed her yet, never let the girl call the shots. This is what happened to me. I asked my girl to meet up with me and get some drinks and some food. She agreed, texted me this.

"That might be a possibility. I have a tentative appt w my mentor but he always cancles so ill let u know 4 sure later on.

At first this looks good but it's not really. The reason is because she will let me know later on :( I was being a dumb ass and agreed and she ended up not calling me. What I should have done is text her some thing like this:

"Actually, I'm not 100% sure about my schedule either. I'll hit up you after I get off work. Later hun :)"

Now control is in my hand and if I feel like going out, I can always call her. Simple conversational technique yet powerful.

1 comment:

DDD said...

Girls are indecisive, either stick your neck out and call it right there or use the same thing back on them.

They also rarely go out of their way to get what they want. As misogynistic as this may appear, tell them what they want and they'll be glad you did.

Remember the W-plan (i.e. dingleberry), also be The Decider! :)