Welcome to my Blog. It describes the struggle I went from being an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) to a PUA (Pick Up Artist). Even though I don't consider myself a pick up artist, I definitely got skills to put a lot of guys to shame. I have overcome a lot of things from approach anxiety to learning how to get ONS (one night stands). My knowledge is shared on this blog, for free. Everyone is welcome to read it and improve their life.
It's when large percentage of the girls go nuts with their hair after they meet you. They throw IOIs like crazy. If met through a friend from social circle (or a safe way in), the overwhelming majority of girls will do this.
It's when you talk and they turn to their friend and say "he is good".
It's when they accuse you of being a player.
The best compliment a girl can give me is to call me a "Player". I love this and it's starting to happen quiet often to me now. Then again, it might be a fluke. I'll wait and see how often this happens before I get a big head.
Woke up today weighing in at 194 pounds and also dehydrated. Funny thing is that if I didn't drink or go out this weekend, I would have been around 192.5 or so. I love/hate the weekends. Love it because I always meet a girl and hate it because I always gain a pound or two.
I'll try to cut down on my eating and drinking next weekend and really push to go down to around 191. My ideal weight would be around 180 pounds. If I drop to 170, I'll be shredded.
I recently heard of a funny story. It's funny and sad. A community guy was in set and he ran into a non responsive girl. Of course, him being a total social retard, he said to her "You're boring".
This is not a fly thing to do. Boy, if I got a penny every time i saw some thing retarded like that, i'd have enough money to buy one of you a drink. Of course, that would break another pathetic community rule, so I wouldn't do that (sigh).
This is why community guys never improve and one of the reasons I decided to stay away from them. Guys really need to learn how to be normal before reading a book about seduction and really think twice about throwing negs. I've heard too many stories of these idiots getting kicked out of clubs. At the same time, I've done things like this too and I can totally relate to it. I have messed up on many different occasions but after a while, I developed social calibration and this shit never happened.
Recently I read a TD article where he said that after a while, your social skills will be at a point where no one can keep up with you. Every thing you say is so socially calibrated and this is so true. I've personally witnessed this when I was helping the SocialHitchHiker in his bootcamps. The things that comes out of his mouth are really amazing that's one reason why I love that guy. Every time we hang out, I get newer insights into things.
Here is an example of his social calibration:
Single Mom: .... and that why I don't go out very often because I don't have much time.
SocialHitchHiker: I know what you're talking about. I used to date a single mom and she was really busy with her kids. She had to cook for them and drop them of to school and it was always special when she found some time to go out. [The delivery of this was amazing]
Single Mom: [Feel understood, she feels special and opens up to him even more]
Vibe: [Thinking "damn, I should have said that". This is where I gained a deeper understanding about what social calibration is and ever since then, i've been trying to say things that are socially to the point. This is also another proof that all game is not inner game.]
Calibration is another reason why guys who use routines tend to do horribly. Most community guys are horribly socially calibrated and when a person like that uses routines, they spit out the routine at bad times and creep out every one.
My point is, learn how to offer social value by making every thing a "hit". I'm not there yet but doing my best to get there. Do this and all the girls in your social circle will love you and you'll be able to at least #close every time you go out.
It's been about a week and again, it's time for the song of the week. This one is from Cascada - Everytime We Touch. I think she is German and just to let you guy on a juicy secret, Awesome, Seattle's biggest asshole is in love with this song. He has a soft heart after all and i think he's gonna hate me for publicly stating this....muahahahahahah
I still hear your voice, when you sleep next to me. I still feel your touch in my dreams. Forgive me my weakness, but I don't know why Without you it's hard to survive.
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling. And every time we kiss I swear I could fly. Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last. Need you by my side. 'Cause every time we touch, I feel this static. And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky. Can't you hear my heart beat so... I can't let you go. Want you in my life.
Your arms are my castle, your heart is my sky. They wipe away tears that I cry.
The good and the bad times, we've been through them all. You make me rise when I fall.
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling. And every time we kiss I swear I could fly. Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last. Need you by my side. 'Cause every time we touch, I feel this static. And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky. Can't you hear my heart beat so... I can't let you go. Want you in my life.
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling. And every time we kiss I swear I could fly. Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last. Need you by my side.
I started my workout program last Monday after I realized that I've gained too much weight from partying too much. Here is a quick update of how things went.
Monday: Did some cardio in the morning for 30 minutes, if I remember correctly. Cardio in an empty stomach is the best.
Tuesday: Went to my boxing class. Boxed for 2 hours straight and almost puked. On top of that, my instructor didn't open the windows and the class was full and it was about 90 fucking degrees inside. After a while, I felt so dizzy. I started seeing doubles and that's when I said "fuck it" and left the class. I went outside and sat for a good 15 minutes until I stopped seeing doubles. It was actually scary.
Wednesday: Didn't plan on doing cardio but had to help an old friend move his Suzuki 750. He went on a business trip and none of his friends could ride a motorcycle. So I had to move it from the storage unit to outside and his bike was fucking heavy. I was sweating like a pig! J, if you're reading this, you better take me out to dinner when you come back. Make sure you wear a nice suite and open all the doors for me too because it was a pain in the ass. You'll will be my bitch for that night :)
Thursday: Boxing. That class nearly killed me again. My stomach was sore for few days. Damn those crunches.
Friday: Day off
Saturday: Went to the gym and got lazy and ended up doing my neck
Sunday: Cardio morning and evening
Monday: Day off
It's Tuesday and I'm at 196 pounds. By next weekend, I'll probably be below 195.
I didn't know any thing about SOIs until I took the Charisma Arts bootcamp and it has been a long struggle for me to really understand SOIs. They can be as blunt as saying "I find your lust for skydiving really sexy about you. I'm so sick at all these girls who stay home and do nothing and it's a breath of fresh air to talk to some one who is different" By the way, dropping a well calibrated SOI like that is just like dropping a nuke. It'll get attraction. Lots of it and it will change the way she will interact with me. I love it.
At the same time, SOIs can be different. I don't have to tell her she is sexy for her to know that I'm after a relationship that's romantic. There are ways to convey that. Here is an example of a SOI that doesn't have the word sexy:
She: .... and when I was in Italy, I went to Venice and took a trip on the boat and took pictures of all the historical buildings.
Vibe: That's wonderful. I'd be scared to those ride one of those small boats because they might tip over and I'll end up in the dirty water and catch a disease but it's nice to meet a girl who travels a lot. I totally love that. I'm gonna have to make a move on you but I've been to Italy too...... [In this situation, I showed her my sexual interest by telling her thant I'm gonna make a move on her. She will respond to me differently from that point on if she understands my SOI.]
During the bootcamp, they told me to find a unique quality about her and SOI and that's not true. The most important factor in delivering a SOI is not her unique quality. The most important part is for me to grab my balls and do it with 100% congruency. If I really believe that she is the most beautiful girl on earth, I can walk up to her and say:
Vibe: "Excuse me. I'm standing over there and I couldn't help but to notice you. You're the most beautiful girl I've ever seen"
She: Melts
In this case, she knows what I'm after and she would accept the SOI because I'm totally congruent in the way I delivered it. That being said, I don't really like to SOI women on their beauty, unless the approach is done in day time while she is walking. I'd rather find a higher value in her and show my interest in her based on her higher value.
So the second important component of a SOI is for her to have a higher value. A higher value could be that she loves to pain during weekend or that she fells happy when she cuts some ones hair and gives them a new look.
Lastly, when delivering a SOI, the most important thing is not seek her reaction. What I do is make my intentions clear and keep talking.
Ex: I love the fact that you take your weekends off and go to different thrift stores to find cool stuff. That's sexy. I usually go to a mall ever few weeks and do the same thing but I'm looking for cool graphic T-Shirts.
A man breaks into a house to look for money and guns. Inside, he finds a young couple in bed. He orders the guy out of bed and ties him to a chair. While tying the homeowner's wife to the bed the convict gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom.
While he's in there, the husband whispers over to his wife: "Listen, this guy is an escaped convict. Look at his clothes! He's probably spent a lot of time in jail and hasn't seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck.
If he wants sex, don't resist, don't complain...do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is obviously very dangerous. If he gets angry, he'll kill us both. Be strong, honey. I love you!"
His wife responds: "He wasn't kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear. He told me that he's gay, thinks you're cute, and asked if we had any Vaseline. I told him it was in the bathroom. Be strong honey. I love you, too."
One thing that affects a pick-up the most for me is the state I'm in. If I'm in a great state, I will do incredibly good. I have no AA (Approach Anxiety) and I bring every one around me up. If I'm in a shitty state, I get some AA, I'm not too expressive and my sets don't go the way I want them to.
I have two strategies for handling my state. One is to invite my friends to pre-funk at my place before going out. I love my friends outside the community. They don't talk game, we have inside jokes, we make fun of each other, go out and pick up chicks. It's easy and simple. When I'm with them, I'm happy and in an amazing social mood. It's a snowball effect. One makes a joke, everyone laughs and then some one else makes a joke and every one laughs. All that laughter has the snowball affect lifing the mood of the whole group, giving all of us social super powers.
But there are some times where I like to go out alone as well. In this situation, I don't have the luxury of having kick ass friends. In this situation, I blast music, take a shot of Sky Vodca and chase it down with a redbull. Then I take another shot and mix it up with the redbull. Just before I leave my house or car, I finish the redbull. close my eyes and listen to this song by Wisin Y Yandel called Rakata. It makes me feel like the shit and then I slowly open my eyes and wolla, I'm in state.
I'm in the process of figuring out what I exactly do in the field and documenting my method. I will try to update this section until the end of this year and exactly figure out what I do. Note: This is my method. These are the things I do and it'll probably wont work for you.
I'm usually bored at my job, so I love to kill my time by listening to songs on youtube.com. Youtube is probably my second favorite site, first one being gmail and myspace at number 3 and this blog would be number 4.
But after a while, listening to the same songs get really old, so I decided to look for this Arabic song called habibi, but I discovered some thing much cooler. It's this female group called Milk & Honey and I'm in love with them. It consist of two girl, one who is probably Arabic and the other one, a German blond. Their songs has lyrics in French, Arabic and English.
The dark-haired girl is so HOT in this video. I'd love to do... never mind. There are kids who are reading this blog. I don't want them to read things that are illegal in the civilized world. If I see a girl like her, I would soooo fucking approach her and make her mine.
Here are the lyrics:
Habibi Je t'aime (Tu es mon roi) Et je suis ta reine (Milk and Honey)
Verse 1: Shagali bali ta3abli hali 3asabli albi w hobi huwa amani huwa makani huwa habibi ou albi kalamni tani la tkun anani faker fe shoi ou orbi saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi
Chorus: Habibi Je T'aime Et Je Suis Ta Reine
Verse 2: I like the way you pay me attention and the way you give me affection Can't you feel my hot temptation don't you want to know my attention
Bridge: Love and passion for all the nation, love and passion bring you servation ( 2 mal)
Chorus: Habibi Je T'aime (Tu es mon roi) Et Je Suis Ta Reine (Ecoute moi) Come with me I promise you my love is true its now or never Come with me I promise you my love is true
verse 1: Shagali bali ta3abli hali 3asabli albi w hobi huwa amani huwa makani huwa habibi ou albi kalamni tani la tkun anani faker fe shoi ou orbi saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi
Chorus: Habibi Je T'aime Et Je Suis Ta Reine
verse 3: All the games that drive me crazy, just make me wanna be your lady The way your playing with me then I know the woman to be albi albi hobi hobi kunte inta ha terbah albi,albi albi hobi hobi do you want milk and honey (kuss)
chorus: habibi Je t'aime (Tu es mon roi) Et je suis ta Reine (Ecoute moi) come with me I promise you my love is true its now or never come with me I promise you my love is true
verse1: Shagali bali ta3abli hali 3asabli albi w hobi huwa amani huwa makani huwa habibi ou albi kalamni tani la tkun anani faker fe shoi ou orbi saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi
chorus: habibi Je t'aime (Tu es mon roi) Et je suis ta Reine (Ecoute moi) come with me I promise you my love is true its now or never come with me I promise you my love is true
habibi Je t'aime (Tu es mon roi) Et je suis ta Reine your the owner of my heart, And we’ll never be apart, promise you belong to me…to eternity saharni layali ta3abli hali 3asab hayati w albi
Then I saw this video. The blond looks hotter. What can I say, I have a thing for girls with curly hair. She reminds me of Shakira in Whenever, whenever.
Woke up today and realized that I've gained a good 6 pounds in the last 3 weeks (FUCK). That's what happens to me when I work with outgoing coworkers. All of them want to get Indian food or Asian food for lunch and I get peer pressured into going with them. On top of that, I try to go out 3 times a week and that means consuming a shitload of calories. I had it enough of that. I'm going back to doing 30 minutes of cardio right after waking up. On top of that, I'll do 2 hours of martial arts. Time to loose about 15 pounds in the next 6 weeks and it'll be a piece of cake.
Loosing weight is easy. I've been working out since I was in high school and know my body really well. I can feel when I'm loosing weight and when I'm gaining weight. I can adjust my diet to the point where I can loose 2 pounds every week easily.
One thing that sucks about fast weight loss by doing really intense workouts of boxing and kickboxing is the strain it puts on my immune system. A lot of times, I end up catching a cough and a slight fever after 2-3 weeks of intense workouts. Hopefully, it'll be different this time. I'm planning on loading up on Vitamins and Echinichea and ask the doctor for advice of I get symptoms of a fever or cold. Plus I have a good 110 hours or sick leave and want to quit my job in the next 6 months. I need to calling in sick more often and cash in those hours.
I will definitly blog more about weight loss and martial arts in the next few weeks. Whatever is going on in my life, I'll blog about. Time to get my fatass back to the gym.
I'm a huge fan of small chunking things into my game and now I'm really pushing it with the push/pulls. They are great and I'm learning really how to push the boundaries. Say some thing rude, wait for a shocked reaction in her face, then pull her back in. The shocked reaction in her face should only last for a split second and when I pull her back in, I get a big laugh. It really hits a girl, triggering her positive and negative emotions.
Girl: bla bla bal and that's the reason why I've got a puppy. Vibe: You're a nice girl. I could never fuck you. Girl: [Shocked look in her face] Vibe: I would make love to you Girl: Huge laugh
I can't emphasize the important of push pulls. Mystery does a lot of them and so does Juggler. With me, I improve the push/pulls, and i really have to be in state to do them. For newbies, I recommend them sticking to basic Juggler style push/pulls.
Ex: I don't date blonds, but I'll make an exception for you.
For more advanced guys, who can think on their head quickly, I recommend to really push it with the push pulls. With that I mean, do borderline negs and pull her back in.
Ex: Vibe: You've got some lipstick in your teeth. (neg) Girl: [Shocked look] Vibe: but I love the way put yourself together. You really know a lot about fashion. I like that about you. Where do you go shopping (Vacuum)
That being said, if anyone wants to be a true master of push/pulls, he has to understand what microcalibration is. When I'm in set, I can just feel if I'm pushing too much or pulling her too much and I suspect that's just the beginning. I'm not FULLY calibrated on how much I can push and how much I can pull. It'll take time but I can get away with some nasty push/pulls and it's a REALLY powerful tool that will definitely jump your game to a different level.
[Verse 1 - Timbaland] I ain't got no money I ain't got no car to take you on a date I can't even buy you flowers But together we be the perfect soulmates Talk to me girl
(Oh) Baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me If we go dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free We can work without the perks just you and me Thug it out 'til we get it right
[Chorus] - Keri Hilson & (D.O.E) Baby you could strip, you can get a tip 'Cause I like you just the way you are (I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped Can you handle me the way I are? ) I don't need the cheese, or the car keys Boy I like you just the way you are Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip 'Cause I like, I like, I like...
[Verse 2 - Timbaland] I ain't got no Visa I ain't got no Red American Express We can't go nowhere exotic It don't matter 'cause I'm the one that loves you best
Talk to me girl
[Bridge 2 - Keri Hilson] Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me If we dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free We can work without the perks just you and me Thug it out 'til we get it right
[Chorus] - Keri Hilson & (D.O.E) Baby you can strip, you can get a tip 'Cause I like you just the way you are (I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped Can you handle me the way I are? ) I don't need the cheese or the car keys Boy I like you just the way you are Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip 'Cause I like you just the way you are
[Verse 3 - D.O.E.] Baby girl, I don't got a huge ol' house I rent a room in a house Listen baby girl, I ain't got a motorboat but I can float ya boat So listen baby girl, once you get a dose of D.O.E. you gon' want some mo' So listen baby girl, when I'm naked I want you there, want you there, yeah.
Yo my money ain't Luth like felling 'em, And it's really not quite Moris Allison Your body ain't Pamela Anderson It's a struggle just to get you in the caravan
So, Listen baby girl, before I let you lose a pound, I'll buy a bigger car I love you just the way you are, The way you are.
Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me If we go dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free We can work without the perks just you and me Thug it out 'til we get it right
Baby you can strip, you can get a tip 'Cause I like you just the way you are (I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped Can you handle me the way I are? ) x2
I don't need the cheese or the car keys Boy I like you just the way you are Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip 'Cause I like you just the way you are
One of my biggest weaknesses is a girl with a badonkadonk aka a nice bootay!!!!! Every time I see that, I fall in lust with her. I can't help it. I'm attracted to that and I want to do every thing in my power to posses her. It's a natural response.
Anyways, lets get back to the story. I was at Twilight, a club that tends to be a cockfest a lot of times but it does have few cute ethnic chicks. Mostly Latinas, Indian's and Mixed girls.
I was talking to a friend of a friend and saw these two girls walking. It was a moving set but I opened. Went in strong & direct, the set hooked, and I introduced the obstacle to the guy I was talking to. We're both in.
Dance clubs are not a place to talk, so I immediate built a tiny bit of rapport and make them go and dance with me. We dance around and then go to the bar, where I notice this other cute girl giving me the eye. I leave my target by the bar, because some other guy started to chat with her then and I didn't want to compete with him. Looks like she was into him as well.
So I walk over to the other girl and chat with her for a little bit. Number close her and return to my girl. She is still talking to the same random dude. I go in and get her attention. There is no way I'm gonna loose this girl to some random guy. Not this time! I talk to her for a little bit and number close her and leave her to get more numbers.
Later on the night I see her again and she is still with the same guy. I think he tried to take her back home but it didn't work. So I chat with some other people and look at her again. This time she is by herself, standing next to her friend. I go in again, give her a hug and start running verbal diarrhea, aka the Juggler method. End up kissing her before I leave home.
The next day, I text back and forth with all the girls I met and set up the day2s. Set a day2 with her on Sunday. Damn logistics. Usually I try to set up the day2 ASAP but we were both busy so it had to be a week late.
Around Saturday she calls me back and asks what my plans are. HINT: She wants to see me sooner. So I tell her than I'm hungry and want to grab a late lunch. She agrees and I tell her to come and pick me up.
She arrives, we go and grab some Thai food and drove around Seattle hitting up antique stores. Every time I go on a day2, I don't finish my meal. I take some thing to go, because that way I can say "My food might spoil. I need to put it in my fridge." Great excuse to take her back home.
At my place, we sit at my coffee table and she looks around the window. I have the most amazing view of Seattle. I go behind her and give her a hug and start smelling the back of her neck. She gets turned on. Slowly, I move closer to her mouth and kiss her lightly and keep smelling the back of her neck again. Then I start to tell her how I'm gonna kiss her and describe how we are going to have sex. The key here is to describe every thing in vivid detail.
Ex: I will unbutton your belt buckle and pull your pants down until I see your panties. Then I will kiss you right above your thigh and you will make a slight moan..... Read some Romance novels and this shit will be really easy and the rest is history :)
I'm feeling a little gay now. This song just hit the spot.
God, I wish I was born in the 1970s! Would have loved to dance and spin around to this gay song. Actually, I take it back. It would suck to be in the 30s and do this stupid PU bullshit. Talk about having a midlife crisis.
Generally, if there is not enough rapport and you haven't day2ed her yet, never let the girl call the shots. This is what happened to me. I asked my girl to meet up with me and get some drinks and some food. She agreed, texted me this.
"That might be a possibility. I have a tentative appt w my mentor but he always cancles so ill let u know 4 sure later on.
At first this looks good but it's not really. The reason is because she will let me know later on :( I was being a dumb ass and agreed and she ended up not calling me. What I should have done is text her some thing like this:
"Actually, I'm not 100% sure about my schedule either. I'll hit up you after I get off work. Later hun :)"
Now control is in my hand and if I feel like going out, I can always call her. Simple conversational technique yet powerful.
Lately I've been really shallow and just focusing on SNP (Same Night Pussy) and I didn't have any luck with it, so I'm going back to the basics. Open -> Get number -> Day2 -> Wild Monkey Sex -> May be relationship. Throwing after parties is easy because most girls don't want to go home around 1am. If they meet a bunch of cool guys, they're down to party more but pulling a single girl back to my place is not that easy. I don't have the calibration to do that. I could pull her outside but I don't know exactly how to work the situation to take her home. My guess would be to stay in set for a while, built more rapport and then go home with her. There are different strategies and I'm getting used to them and working alone makes things a little harder too.
My goal with the SNP is to be able to do it every weekend. I think I'll get to this point sooner or later.
That being said, this weekend was amazing. I went out with the specific intention of getting one day2 for next week. I shit myself when I found out that I met 5 cool girls that could eventually lead to many nights of monkey love and may be even a relationship. This has totally rocked my confidence. I always knew that I could find a day2 every time I go out but not 5 girls in 2 days!!!!! THAT'S FUCKING INSANE.
So as of now (Tuesday, August 21) my schedule looks like this:
TU: Possible Date WE: Day3 from a girl who gave me major LMR TH: Date FR: Having fun with my boys SA: Bday party with my boys (may be squeeze a day2 in the afternoon) SU: Date MO: Time off (I need to be alone but I'm sure I could find a date here as well)
I was going through my old posts and realized that I don't agree with a lot of them. As we evolve, go to different levels, we have to abandon the old ideas and embrace new ones.
I've come from a long way. Got into the community exactly a year and half ago. Back then, I'd rather get beaten up than approach a woman. It was a hard thing to do. I've mastered that pretty quickly, but the next six months were hard. I talked many to girls I didn't really like and nothing went any where. I barely got a phone number.
I couldn't take it anymore. Day gamed for 30 days straight but with no luck. The frustration in me grew, day by day and I finally decided to go and take a bootcamp. Back then, I didn't have that much money and Charisma Arts offered a bootcamp. I took it.
Had a decent experience in the bootcamp. Couldn't really do any thing Friday night. I was too confused. The worst part was opening with a friendly vibe because I didn't know how to smile and on top of that, I had a shitty voice. I didn't speak from the diaphragm. I spoke from my mouth and my voice wasn't loud in certain areas of the venue. Did a little better Saturday at the bookstore. I was barely starting to understand what relate/reward is (I didn't fully understand what this is until a year later). Saturday however, I did good. Ended up with a kiss close and 2 numbers. All of them flaked on me :)
For the next few months, I would go out and practice certain techniques such as DQs and Push Pulls. Slowly but surely, every thing was coming into place. I learned how to drop SOIs and how to smile but still no success in terms of a lot of lays from cold approach. Luckily for me, I've got decent at gaming on myspace so I knew if I wanted to, I could find some one to fuck.
I was still unhappy with my success. I saw newbies coming in and getting a lay after a month. I still couldn't really do it and I've been at this for 10 months now. Finally I said "FUCK IT. I had it with the game. I'm wont be in there anymore". So now when I went out, I didn't try to relate/reward. I didn't try to push pull or do any of that crap. Only thing I did was to get drunk with my friends and have fun. But some thing amazing happened. Every thing started to go right for me. I was talking to women non stop and I was having really fun interactions with them. On top of that, I was loosing a lot of weight and started to dress better. I became a happier person and that really reflected in the way I was communicating to people. I had too much fun now and when I have too much fun, I have no approach anxiety. Not even a little bit. I could see big groups of girls and wouldn't even hesitate to approach them. It was easy. I started to be myself. I didn't give a shit if I got blown out of set because deep down, I knew that if some one spoke to me long enough, they would like me. In community jargon, this is know as Assuming Attraction.
Also, by this time I was pulling irregular day2s and I realized that the community was not for me. I started to call my normal friends up and hang out with them more. But even then, I still had one major sticking point and it was getting the phone number but this was an easy cure. I told myself, the worse thing she can do is say "no" when I ask and started asking every girl for her number. Two weeks later, I was getting about 3 numbers every time I went out and I was able to pull one day2 a week. This is also the point where I realized that I didn't have any problem with meeting women anymore. I have become quote on quotes, a "PUA". Of course, I don't really subscribe to community language anymore, so I still see myself as a guy who goes out and haves fun but at the same time, it is easy to describe things using community terms, so I still use them.
November, December, and January were the months where I put myself out the most. That's when I became a "Star Approacher", as one of my friends would call it.
January, February, March and April is where I started to dress better. I can finally say, that I understand fashion now. I can dress and convey a unique personality. I know how to stand out from the barrage of bore that awaits a woman every time she goes out.
Now my game is going through a new revelation. In my opinion, the most important and the most powerful so far. My inner game is changing at a fast rate. It's almost a complete change. I realize how much women chase me and how good I am. It all started after I sat down with a couple of friends late at night and talked. After that I was able to see what I was doing wrong. As a direct result of the change in inner game, I'm starting to get one day2 per week. A little scared now because I'm starting to have choice with women.
