Time to loose some weight again:

Woke up today and realized that I've gained a good 6 pounds in the last 3 weeks (FUCK). That's what happens to me when I work with outgoing coworkers. All of them want to get Indian food or Asian food for lunch and I get peer pressured into going with them. On top of that, I try to go out 3 times a week and that means consuming a shitload of calories. I had it enough of that. I'm going back to doing 30 minutes of cardio right after waking up. On top of that, I'll do 2 hours of martial arts. Time to loose about 15 pounds in the next 6 weeks and it'll be a piece of cake.


Loosing weight is easy. I've been working out since I was in high school and know my body really well. I can feel when I'm loosing weight and when I'm gaining weight. I can adjust my diet to the point where I can loose 2 pounds every week easily.

One thing that sucks about fast weight loss by doing really intense workouts of boxing and kickboxing is the strain it puts on my immune system. A lot of times, I end up catching a cough and a slight fever after 2-3 weeks of intense workouts. Hopefully, it'll be different this time. I'm planning on loading up on Vitamins and Echinichea and ask the doctor for advice of I get symptoms of a fever or cold. Plus I have a good 110 hours or sick leave and want to quit my job in the next 6 months. I need to calling in sick more often and cash in those hours.

I will definitly blog more about weight loss and martial arts in the next few weeks. Whatever is going on in my life, I'll blog about. Time to get my fatass back to the gym.

That being said, my start weight is 199.

Getting deeper into push/pull

I'm a huge fan of small chunking things into my game and now I'm really pushing it with the push/pulls. They are great and I'm learning really how to push the boundaries. Say some thing rude, wait for a shocked reaction in her face, then pull her back in. The shocked reaction in her face should only last for a split second and when I pull her back in, I get a big laugh. It really hits a girl, triggering her positive and negative emotions.

Girl: bla bla bal and that's the reason why I've got a puppy.
Vibe: You're a nice girl. I could never fuck you.
Girl: [Shocked look in her face]
Vibe: I would make love to you
Girl: Huge laugh

I can't emphasize the important of push pulls. Mystery does a lot of them and so does Juggler. With me, I improve the push/pulls, and i really have to be in state to do them. For newbies, I recommend them sticking to basic Juggler style push/pulls.

Ex: I don't date blonds, but I'll make an exception for you.

For more advanced guys, who can think on their head quickly, I recommend to really push it with the push pulls. With that I mean, do borderline negs and pull her back in.

Ex:
Vibe: You've got some lipstick in your teeth. (neg)
Girl: [Shocked look]
Vibe: but I love the way put yourself together. You really know a lot about fashion. I like that about you. Where do you go shopping (Vacuum)

That being said, if anyone wants to be a true master of push/pulls, he has to understand what microcalibration is. When I'm in set, I can just feel if I'm pushing too much or pulling her too much and I suspect that's just the beginning. I'm not FULLY calibrated on how much I can push and how much I can pull. It'll take time but I can get away with some nasty push/pulls and it's a REALLY powerful tool that will definitely jump your game to a different level.

Song of the week

Timbaland - The Way I Are



Lyrics

(Yeah, Yeah) x3

[Verse 1 - Timbaland]
I ain't got no money
I ain't got no car to take you on a date
I can't even buy you flowers
But together we be the perfect soulmates
Talk to me girl

(Oh) Baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me
If we go dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free
We can work without the perks just you and me
Thug it out 'til we get it right

[Chorus] - Keri Hilson & (D.O.E)
Baby you could strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are
(I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped
Can you handle me the way I are? )
I don't need the cheese, or the car keys
Boy I like you just the way you are
Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like, I like, I like...

[Verse 2 - Timbaland]
I ain't got no Visa
I ain't got no Red American Express
We can't go nowhere exotic
It don't matter 'cause I'm the one that loves you best

Talk to me girl

[Bridge 2 - Keri Hilson]
Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me
If we dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free
We can work without the perks just you and me
Thug it out 'til we get it right

[Chorus] - Keri Hilson & (D.O.E)
Baby you can strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are
(I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped
Can you handle me the way I are? )
I don't need the cheese or the car keys
Boy I like you just the way you are
Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are

[Verse 3 - D.O.E.]
Baby girl, I don't got a huge ol' house I rent a room in a house
Listen baby girl, I ain't got a motorboat but I can float ya boat
So listen baby girl, once you get a dose of D.O.E. you gon' want some mo'
So listen baby girl, when I'm naked I want you there, want you there, yeah.

Yo my money ain't Luth like felling 'em,
And it's really not quite Moris Allison
Your body ain't Pamela Anderson
It's a struggle just to get you in the caravan

So, Listen baby girl, before I let you lose a pound, I'll buy a bigger car
I love you just the way you are, The way you are.

Oh, baby, it's alright now, you ain't gotta flaunt for me
If we go dutch, you can still touch my love, it's free
We can work without the perks just you and me
Thug it out 'til we get it right

Baby you can strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are
(I'm about to strip and I'm well equiped
Can you handle me the way I are? ) x2

I don't need the cheese or the car keys
Boy I like you just the way you are
Let me see ya strip, you can get a tip
'Cause I like you just the way you are


Here is the remix

LR: Twilight Badonkadonk

One of my biggest weaknesses is a girl with a badonkadonk aka a nice bootay!!!!! Every time I see that, I fall in lust with her. I can't help it. I'm attracted to that and I want to do every thing in my power to posses her. It's a natural response.

Anyways, lets get back to the story. I was at Twilight, a club that tends to be a cockfest a lot of times but it does have few cute ethnic chicks. Mostly Latinas, Indian's and Mixed girls.

I was talking to a friend of a friend and saw these two girls walking. It was a moving set but I opened. Went in strong & direct, the set hooked, and I introduced the obstacle to the guy I was talking to. We're both in.

Dance clubs are not a place to talk, so I immediate built a tiny bit of rapport and make them go and dance with me. We dance around and then go to the bar, where I notice this other cute girl giving me the eye. I leave my target by the bar, because some other guy started to chat with her then and I didn't want to compete with him. Looks like she was into him as well.

So I walk over to the other girl and chat with her for a little bit. Number close her and return to my girl. She is still talking to the same random dude. I go in and get her attention. There is no way I'm gonna loose this girl to some random guy. Not this time! I talk to her for a little bit and number close her and leave her to get more numbers.

Later on the night I see her again and she is still with the same guy. I think he tried to take her back home but it didn't work. So I chat with some other people and look at her again. This time she is by herself, standing next to her friend. I go in again, give her a hug and start running verbal diarrhea, aka the Juggler method. End up kissing her before I leave home.

The next day, I text back and forth with all the girls I met and set up the day2s. Set a day2 with her on Sunday. Damn logistics. Usually I try to set up the day2 ASAP but we were both busy so it had to be a week late.

Around Saturday she calls me back and asks what my plans are. HINT: She wants to see me sooner. So I tell her than I'm hungry and want to grab a late lunch. She agrees and I tell her to come and pick me up.

She arrives, we go and grab some Thai food and drove around Seattle hitting up antique stores. Every time I go on a day2, I don't finish my meal. I take some thing to go, because that way I can say "My food might spoil. I need to put it in my fridge." Great excuse to take her back home.

At my place, we sit at my coffee table and she looks around the window. I have the most amazing view of Seattle. I go behind her and give her a hug and start smelling the back of her neck. She gets turned on. Slowly, I move closer to her mouth and kiss her lightly and keep smelling the back of her neck again. Then I start to tell her how I'm gonna kiss her and describe how we are going to have sex. The key here is to describe every thing in vivid detail.

Ex: I will unbutton your belt buckle and pull your pants down until I see your panties. Then I will kiss you right above your thigh and you will make a slight moan..... Read some Romance novels and this shit will be really easy and the rest is history :)

Spin me around

I'm feeling a little gay now. This song just hit the spot.



God, I wish I was born in the 1970s! Would have loved to dance and spin around to this gay song. Actually, I take it back. It would suck to be in the 30s and do this stupid PU bullshit. Talk about having a midlife crisis.

Calling the shots

Generally, if there is not enough rapport and you haven't day2ed her yet, never let the girl call the shots. This is what happened to me. I asked my girl to meet up with me and get some drinks and some food. She agreed, texted me this.

"That might be a possibility. I have a tentative appt w my mentor but he always cancles so ill let u know 4 sure later on.

At first this looks good but it's not really. The reason is because she will let me know later on :( I was being a dumb ass and agreed and she ended up not calling me. What I should have done is text her some thing like this:

"Actually, I'm not 100% sure about my schedule either. I'll hit up you after I get off work. Later hun :)"

Now control is in my hand and if I feel like going out, I can always call her. Simple conversational technique yet powerful.

Getting overworked with day2s.

Lately I've been really shallow and just focusing on SNP (Same Night Pussy) and I didn't have any luck with it, so I'm going back to the basics. Open -> Get number -> Day2 -> Wild Monkey Sex -> May be relationship. Throwing after parties is easy because most girls don't want to go home around 1am. If they meet a bunch of cool guys, they're down to party more but pulling a single girl back to my place is not that easy. I don't have the calibration to do that. I could pull her outside but I don't know exactly how to work the situation to take her home. My guess would be to stay in set for a while, built more rapport and then go home with her. There are different strategies and I'm getting used to them and working alone makes things a little harder too.

My goal with the SNP is to be able to do it every weekend. I think I'll get to this point sooner or later.

That being said, this weekend was amazing. I went out with the specific intention of getting one day2 for next week. I shit myself when I found out that I met 5 cool girls that could eventually lead to many nights of monkey love and may be even a relationship. This has totally rocked my confidence. I always knew that I could find a day2 every time I go out but not 5 girls in 2 days!!!!! THAT'S FUCKING INSANE.

So as of now (Tuesday, August 21) my schedule looks like this:

TU: Possible Date
WE: Day3 from a girl who gave me major LMR
TH: Date
FR: Having fun with my boys
SA: Bday party with my boys (may be squeeze a day2 in the afternoon)
SU: Date
MO: Time off (I need to be alone but I'm sure I could find a date here as well)

I feel like a slut now :*(

A Journey - From AFC to PUA

I was going through my old posts and realized that I don't agree with a lot of them. As we evolve, go to different levels, we have to abandon the old ideas and embrace new ones.

I've come from a long way. Got into the community exactly a year and half ago. Back then, I'd rather get beaten up than approach a woman. It was a hard thing to do. I've mastered that pretty quickly, but the next six months were hard. I talked many to girls I didn't really like and nothing went any where. I barely got a phone number.

I couldn't take it anymore. Day gamed for 30 days straight but with no luck. The frustration in me grew, day by day and I finally decided to go and take a bootcamp. Back then, I didn't have that much money and Charisma Arts offered a bootcamp. I took it.

Had a decent experience in the bootcamp. Couldn't really do any thing Friday night. I was too confused. The worst part was opening with a friendly vibe because I didn't know how to smile and on top of that, I had a shitty voice. I didn't speak from the diaphragm. I spoke from my mouth and my voice wasn't loud in certain areas of the venue. Did a little better Saturday at the bookstore. I was barely starting to understand what relate/reward is (I didn't fully understand what this is until a year later). Saturday however, I did good. Ended up with a kiss close and 2 numbers. All of them flaked on me :)

For the next few months, I would go out and practice certain techniques such as DQs and Push Pulls. Slowly but surely, every thing was coming into place. I learned how to drop SOIs and how to smile but still no success in terms of a lot of lays from cold approach. Luckily for me, I've got decent at gaming on myspace so I knew if I wanted to, I could find some one to fuck.


I was still unhappy with my success. I saw newbies coming in and getting a lay after a month. I still couldn't really do it and I've been at this for 10 months now. Finally I said "FUCK IT. I had it with the game. I'm wont be in there anymore". So now when I went out, I didn't try to relate/reward. I didn't try to push pull or do any of that crap. Only thing I did was to get drunk with my friends and have fun. But some thing amazing happened. Every thing started to go right for me. I was talking to women non stop and I was having really fun interactions with them. On top of that, I was loosing a lot of weight and started to dress better. I became a happier person and that really reflected in the way I was communicating to people. I had too much fun now and when I have too much fun, I have no approach anxiety. Not even a little bit. I could see big groups of girls and wouldn't even hesitate to approach them. It was easy. I started to be myself. I didn't give a shit if I got blown out of set because deep down, I knew that if some one spoke to me long enough, they would like me. In community jargon, this is know as Assuming Attraction.

Also, by this time I was pulling irregular day2s and I realized that the community was not for me. I started to call my normal friends up and hang out with them more. But even then, I still had one major sticking point and it was getting the phone number but this was an easy cure. I told myself, the worse thing she can do is say "no" when I ask and started asking every girl for her number. Two weeks later, I was getting about 3 numbers every time I went out and I was able to pull one day2 a week. This is also the point where I realized that I didn't have any problem with meeting women anymore. I have become quote on quotes, a "PUA". Of course, I don't really subscribe to community language anymore, so I still see myself as a guy who goes out and haves fun but at the same time, it is easy to describe things using community terms, so I still use them.

Progress

November, December, and January were the months where I put myself out the most. That's when I became a "Star Approacher", as one of my friends would call it.

January, February, March and April is where I started to dress better. I can finally say, that I understand fashion now. I can dress and convey a unique personality. I know how to stand out from the barrage of bore that awaits a woman every time she goes out.

Now my game is going through a new revelation. In my opinion, the most important and the most powerful so far. My inner game is changing at a fast rate. It's almost a complete change. I realize how much women chase me and how good I am. It all started after I sat down with a couple of friends late at night and talked. After that I was able to see what I was doing wrong. As a direct result of the change in inner game, I'm starting to get one day2 per week. A little scared now because I'm starting to have choice with women.

Ambition and Potential

Mystery and Style talks about this a lot. One thing a guy should demonstrate is having ambition and potential. According to them, girls are like talent scouts. They look for guys who have potential and ambition and invest in them.

I'm coming from a Juggler background and for the longest time, I flat out rejected this idea. Why should I demonstrate I have those abilities. Demonstrating anything to a girl makes you come from the frame of you being low value. So whenever it came time to demonstrate a higher value, I always tried to disqualify myself but not anymore.

Yesterday I realized that not showing ambition and potential to a girl in a subtle way will make her loose attraction towards me. I'm actually glad it happened because I didn't really like her that much in the first place. The more I told her what a slacker I was at work, the more I turned off her attraction switches. It was interesting to see and from now on, when she asks what I do, I'll answer the question and show her that I have ambition and talent. This totally goes against what I believe because I hate to show people I have stuff but this will totally help me with HB8s and HB9s, so I'll do it. Of course I will not see it as DHVing. I'll see it as me being ambitious and wanting to quit my job because I'm looking for better opportunities, which is actually the truth.

Short term goal

A week ago I was asked a question by someone and I didn't really know the answer for it. The question was: "what do you want out of this, in the short run?" It was a hard question because on one side, I want to be that horny dog who goes and fucks everyone in the vicinity but at the same time, I would love to find a woman I desire and quit the whole PU scene.

It was kind of a tough decision to make but I've made up my mind. Call me insecure, call me an asshole, call me every thing anyone wants. My goal in the next 6 months is to lay as many girls as possible, just so I know I have done it :)

First Quarter Reflections

I feel great and this year has been even better. I've lost a lot of weight. Give me a month or two and I'll be in peak condition.

All the hard work I did on getting a style that conveys a certain look, an identity, a sexy stereotype as Brad P calls it, is heading towards completion. I know exactly what my style is and know how to convey it. It's just a matter of finding the right clothes now.

My game has become tight and it will only get better. I'm calibrated like no other. I cut almost all the negative people I know.

Last but not least, the new lair is off to a great start. I like every one there. No drama and no exaggerated field reports. No insecure little boys and it is well ran. I can't wait to meet and sarge with every one.

Summer time is coming up and it's time create a new lounge, the Space Needle Lounge. So far, every girl seem to love it :)

A little plan for the next few months

I'm planning on going on a lot of day2s so I have to get my shit together. Finally washed my car and got some part of my house cleaned up. Still need to get up my bar table assembled and clean up the kitchen, bathroom and bed room.

My Schedule will look like this. Th, Fr and Saturday has to be for fresh meat, but if it gets down to it, I'll do day2s on Sunday through - Th. Have an overall plan what to do with day2s. I'll try to keep things close to my place because I just hate driving. Bouncing is also easier when you're close to where I live.

Time to go and have some fun. I can already feel that the next few month will be exciting. Summer in Seattle is just fun.

Laters....

When I first listened to this video, I was dieing on the floor laughing. Sacha Baron aka Ali G is definitely a creative person and even better at clowning David and Victoria Beckham. I personally don't think Victoria Beckham is hot but she's does got some cute facial expressions that makes her look inviting and friendly.

Value

Almost all people I've met in the community from the old lair didn't have any value at all. The funny this is that they thought they had value. They could see that other people didn't have any value but couldn't see their own short-comings. They were all delusional but then it hit me. Am I delusional as well? After taking a hard look at myself I noticed that I was delusional as well. I thought I had value but not enough apparently. That's why I've gotten shut down at Amber so many times. With value here I mean perceived value. The value people assume you have when they make a first impression. If a girl writes you off the second she sees you, then you're pretty much toast. Good luck turning it around.

If you want to see how much value you have, go to Amber on a Saturday night and stand next to a tall, good looking guy who is well built with good BL. I have done that and it wasn't

Using Push/Pull while SOIing

Here are some examples of push/pull SOI I came up with. I'll go and practice them in the field and see how it goes. Also, i'll go and read swingcat's stuff as well. Obviously his push/pulls are crazy.

Example 1

Make her do some thing

Girl: and the blond said bla bla bla bal bal
Vibe: (laugh) You know, I really hate laughing at blonds but the way you said it was so sexy. I just couldn't help myself. There goes my new years resolution about not laughing at blonds. Ok tell me another one smile

or if it's not a blond joke.

Vibe: You know, that joke was so horrible tongue but the way you said it was so sexy. I just couldn't help but to laugh. Looks like we've got a girl with a sense of humor. Are you a keeper wink

EXAMPLE 2:

She is mean to you during opening

SOI: You, at first I thought you were an ass because you did XXXXXXX but I find it sexy how adventurous you're and how good of a conversationalist you're. I'm adding you to Vibes friends list.

If you feel like you've pulled her too much here, you can always do some thing like:

"but if you don't leave me any comments, I'm gonna kick you off that list. I work like myspace".


EXAMPLE 3:

You're jealous about a certain quality she has

Girl: bla bla bla and I've been writing ever since then and got a 4.0 in my class.
Vibe: I HATE you wink It's not fair that you're such a good writer. That's so sexy, I can't even write two complete sentences smile


EXAMPLE 4:

Tell her one of her items she wears is weird but how every thing makes sense after she explains more about how things go together.

Girl: bla bla bla and that's why I wore them.
Vibe: You know, at first I saw your boots and thought this girl is crazy for wearing them things, but now I understand how you dress and what you're trying to express and it's sexy how you put every thing together.


EXAMPLE 5:

My first impression of you was wrong

Girl: bla bla bla bla bal I volunteer after work to help the little kids.
Vibe: At first I thought you were one of those mean girls that shoot everyone and every thing down and I was intimidated by your posture [mimic it in a funny way] but you have such a big heart and it's so sexy how you like to take your free time and help out those little buggers.


EXAMPLE 6:

She is breaking your stereotypes

Vibe: I always thought violin players were so friggin boring but I was wrong. You're one of the most exciting and passionate people I talked in a while. Matter of fact, I find your passion towards playing the violin is very attractive about you.

Game Factors:

Things outside my control:

- Male to female ratio. If the ratio is fucked, hooking sets will become very hard, yet alone running game.
- Atmosphere of the place. The classier the place, the harder it is to hook sets. I find college bars to be the easiest while high class cock fests to be the worse place.
- Older women are easier than younger ones.
- Secure, confident girls are easier to game than the insecure ones.
- Smarter girls are easier to game than the dumb ones.

Things in my control:

3 Most important factors in bars and clubs that in my control are preseletion, social proof and a warm vibe. Nothing can come close to these three.

- Preselection: Had some experience with this. Saturday I opened those girls who are walking by using the fat chick who was with me. She had a cool personality. I should definitely use this to my advantage!
- Social proof: Opened those to HB white girls using social proof and preselection I guess.
- Vibe: Have plenty of experience with this. Having a cool, fun vibe will put people at ease.

Clothing

Believe it or not, clothing can have a dramatic affect on your game. I didn't really believe it at first but now I do. Everyone talks about it so I'm surprised why I haven't pick this one up. I realized that some of my friends with less game than me get great reactions when they're wearing nice clothes and a lot worse reactions when they're wearing not so cool stuff. With clothing, there are several components you want to look at.

First there are different looks and you need a look that is congruent with you. Here are some examples of looks: Gothic, preppy, gangster, classy, cowboy, surfer, artsy, sporty and the things go on.

On top of that, there are things like who you are. These are the things in your identity. Are you a bad boy, business man, a family guy, a pro athlete, a body builder, a dancer and so on.

For me, on the identity I picked the bad boy. I'm into martial arts, riding bikes, not afraid to get into fights, and a lot of things that I would consider to be bad boy. But I'm not a bad boy completely. I also identify with things like a guy who is doing well for him and may be a tad bit business oriented. As for the look, I identified with classy and the look I absolutely hate is the gangster look.

So what I did is to put those things together. I started to buy nice shirts and slacks and dress up shoes. Nice watch and some chains for the neck. Dress classy but change it a tad bit to look sexual/bad boyish. I really love this look and hopefully I'll be able to understand more about fashion sooner. This is still very new for me. I want to see how people will react to me after I have fully integrated my new look because my dress code will be congruent with who I am, hopefully :)

It looks like this Pick-Up thing is more than just picking up women. I'm definitely becoming a better person :)

What have I learned in the last month:

- disqualification is key. It makes every one laugh and it builds my confidence. Every time I DQ, I reveal that I'm not perfect yet people accepts me as a person, especially the hot girls :)

- push and pull or pull and push is great as well. I might throw a complement like "I find your artistic side of you very sexy but don't get a big head, I hate you already". Girls starts laughing. That's pull and push and I'll start with push and pull more. Say some thing like "you looked intimidating from the far but you're do down to earth so I'm glad I came here and introduced myself"

- It's not bad to do 10 sets a night. I know some guys in the community do only 1 or two sets per night but I'm not that good. So don't get upset if I have to do 10 sets a night.

- If the state is fucked up, start smiling. It will bring you back in the mood. Smiling is a powerful anchor it seems like and it will always get you into a happy state :) I lose my state this weekend and that's how I've got it back.

- Takeaways are great because it lets you go back to the set easier but you run the risk of loosing the girl or the girl talking to some other guys.

- Wear lighter colors, it will make you less intimidating.

- Walk in with a slight smile, open lips because it will get you more IOIs. It's just like the way models walk in the runway. This is huge for me. I still have trouble smiling.

- I do better when other guys are watching me and I have to defend my reputation. Then I go in with fire or 100% commitment.

A Friendly Vibe is Infectious

HAVE A WARM, FRIENDLY VIBE: Every time I've got blown out of the approach is when I didn't have a warm, friendly vibe and on top of that, I've been lacking Kino during the approach. Lately this has been happening a lot and it's becoming hard for me to approach now. I'm starting to loose the confidence I had about approaching due to the times I've gotten shut down in the past few weeks.

So, this is just a remainder, don't forget to:

HAVE A WARM/FRIENDLY VIBE AND KINO DURING APPROACHING.

WHEN I GO INTO A SET, I ONLY CARE ABOUT FINDING AMAZING THINGS ABOUT PEOPLE.

I'll go and make a note card and write this down. So I can read it before I go out and get into the right mindset.