Progress

November, December, and January were the months where I put myself out the most. That's when I became a "Star Approacher", as one of my friends would call it.

January, February, March and April is where I started to dress better. I can finally say, that I understand fashion now. I can dress and convey a unique personality. I know how to stand out from the barrage of bore that awaits a woman every time she goes out.

Now my game is going through a new revelation. In my opinion, the most important and the most powerful so far. My inner game is changing at a fast rate. It's almost a complete change. I realize how much women chase me and how good I am. It all started after I sat down with a couple of friends late at night and talked. After that I was able to see what I was doing wrong. As a direct result of the change in inner game, I'm starting to get one day2 per week. A little scared now because I'm starting to have choice with women.

Ambition and Potential

Mystery and Style talks about this a lot. One thing a guy should demonstrate is having ambition and potential. According to them, girls are like talent scouts. They look for guys who have potential and ambition and invest in them.

I'm coming from a Juggler background and for the longest time, I flat out rejected this idea. Why should I demonstrate I have those abilities. Demonstrating anything to a girl makes you come from the frame of you being low value. So whenever it came time to demonstrate a higher value, I always tried to disqualify myself but not anymore.

Yesterday I realized that not showing ambition and potential to a girl in a subtle way will make her loose attraction towards me. I'm actually glad it happened because I didn't really like her that much in the first place. The more I told her what a slacker I was at work, the more I turned off her attraction switches. It was interesting to see and from now on, when she asks what I do, I'll answer the question and show her that I have ambition and talent. This totally goes against what I believe because I hate to show people I have stuff but this will totally help me with HB8s and HB9s, so I'll do it. Of course I will not see it as DHVing. I'll see it as me being ambitious and wanting to quit my job because I'm looking for better opportunities, which is actually the truth.

Short term goal

A week ago I was asked a question by someone and I didn't really know the answer for it. The question was: "what do you want out of this, in the short run?" It was a hard question because on one side, I want to be that horny dog who goes and fucks everyone in the vicinity but at the same time, I would love to find a woman I desire and quit the whole PU scene.

It was kind of a tough decision to make but I've made up my mind. Call me insecure, call me an asshole, call me every thing anyone wants. My goal in the next 6 months is to lay as many girls as possible, just so I know I have done it :)

First Quarter Reflections

I feel great and this year has been even better. I've lost a lot of weight. Give me a month or two and I'll be in peak condition.

All the hard work I did on getting a style that conveys a certain look, an identity, a sexy stereotype as Brad P calls it, is heading towards completion. I know exactly what my style is and know how to convey it. It's just a matter of finding the right clothes now.

My game has become tight and it will only get better. I'm calibrated like no other. I cut almost all the negative people I know.

Last but not least, the new lair is off to a great start. I like every one there. No drama and no exaggerated field reports. No insecure little boys and it is well ran. I can't wait to meet and sarge with every one.

Summer time is coming up and it's time create a new lounge, the Space Needle Lounge. So far, every girl seem to love it :)

A little plan for the next few months

I'm planning on going on a lot of day2s so I have to get my shit together. Finally washed my car and got some part of my house cleaned up. Still need to get up my bar table assembled and clean up the kitchen, bathroom and bed room.

My Schedule will look like this. Th, Fr and Saturday has to be for fresh meat, but if it gets down to it, I'll do day2s on Sunday through - Th. Have an overall plan what to do with day2s. I'll try to keep things close to my place because I just hate driving. Bouncing is also easier when you're close to where I live.

Time to go and have some fun. I can already feel that the next few month will be exciting. Summer in Seattle is just fun.

Laters....

When I first listened to this video, I was dieing on the floor laughing. Sacha Baron aka Ali G is definitely a creative person and even better at clowning David and Victoria Beckham. I personally don't think Victoria Beckham is hot but she's does got some cute facial expressions that makes her look inviting and friendly.

Value

Almost all people I've met in the community from the old lair didn't have any value at all. The funny this is that they thought they had value. They could see that other people didn't have any value but couldn't see their own short-comings. They were all delusional but then it hit me. Am I delusional as well? After taking a hard look at myself I noticed that I was delusional as well. I thought I had value but not enough apparently. That's why I've gotten shut down at Amber so many times. With value here I mean perceived value. The value people assume you have when they make a first impression. If a girl writes you off the second she sees you, then you're pretty much toast. Good luck turning it around.

If you want to see how much value you have, go to Amber on a Saturday night and stand next to a tall, good looking guy who is well built with good BL. I have done that and it wasn't

Using Push/Pull while SOIing

Here are some examples of push/pull SOI I came up with. I'll go and practice them in the field and see how it goes. Also, i'll go and read swingcat's stuff as well. Obviously his push/pulls are crazy.

Example 1

Make her do some thing

Girl: and the blond said bla bla bla bal bal
Vibe: (laugh) You know, I really hate laughing at blonds but the way you said it was so sexy. I just couldn't help myself. There goes my new years resolution about not laughing at blonds. Ok tell me another one smile

or if it's not a blond joke.

Vibe: You know, that joke was so horrible tongue but the way you said it was so sexy. I just couldn't help but to laugh. Looks like we've got a girl with a sense of humor. Are you a keeper wink

EXAMPLE 2:

She is mean to you during opening

SOI: You, at first I thought you were an ass because you did XXXXXXX but I find it sexy how adventurous you're and how good of a conversationalist you're. I'm adding you to Vibes friends list.

If you feel like you've pulled her too much here, you can always do some thing like:

"but if you don't leave me any comments, I'm gonna kick you off that list. I work like myspace".


EXAMPLE 3:

You're jealous about a certain quality she has

Girl: bla bla bla and I've been writing ever since then and got a 4.0 in my class.
Vibe: I HATE you wink It's not fair that you're such a good writer. That's so sexy, I can't even write two complete sentences smile


EXAMPLE 4:

Tell her one of her items she wears is weird but how every thing makes sense after she explains more about how things go together.

Girl: bla bla bla and that's why I wore them.
Vibe: You know, at first I saw your boots and thought this girl is crazy for wearing them things, but now I understand how you dress and what you're trying to express and it's sexy how you put every thing together.


EXAMPLE 5:

My first impression of you was wrong

Girl: bla bla bla bla bal I volunteer after work to help the little kids.
Vibe: At first I thought you were one of those mean girls that shoot everyone and every thing down and I was intimidated by your posture [mimic it in a funny way] but you have such a big heart and it's so sexy how you like to take your free time and help out those little buggers.


EXAMPLE 6:

She is breaking your stereotypes

Vibe: I always thought violin players were so friggin boring but I was wrong. You're one of the most exciting and passionate people I talked in a while. Matter of fact, I find your passion towards playing the violin is very attractive about you.

Game Factors:

Things outside my control:

- Male to female ratio. If the ratio is fucked, hooking sets will become very hard, yet alone running game.
- Atmosphere of the place. The classier the place, the harder it is to hook sets. I find college bars to be the easiest while high class cock fests to be the worse place.
- Older women are easier than younger ones.
- Secure, confident girls are easier to game than the insecure ones.
- Smarter girls are easier to game than the dumb ones.

Things in my control:

3 Most important factors in bars and clubs that in my control are preseletion, social proof and a warm vibe. Nothing can come close to these three.

- Preselection: Had some experience with this. Saturday I opened those girls who are walking by using the fat chick who was with me. She had a cool personality. I should definitely use this to my advantage!
- Social proof: Opened those to HB white girls using social proof and preselection I guess.
- Vibe: Have plenty of experience with this. Having a cool, fun vibe will put people at ease.

Clothing

Believe it or not, clothing can have a dramatic affect on your game. I didn't really believe it at first but now I do. Everyone talks about it so I'm surprised why I haven't pick this one up. I realized that some of my friends with less game than me get great reactions when they're wearing nice clothes and a lot worse reactions when they're wearing not so cool stuff. With clothing, there are several components you want to look at.

First there are different looks and you need a look that is congruent with you. Here are some examples of looks: Gothic, preppy, gangster, classy, cowboy, surfer, artsy, sporty and the things go on.

On top of that, there are things like who you are. These are the things in your identity. Are you a bad boy, business man, a family guy, a pro athlete, a body builder, a dancer and so on.

For me, on the identity I picked the bad boy. I'm into martial arts, riding bikes, not afraid to get into fights, and a lot of things that I would consider to be bad boy. But I'm not a bad boy completely. I also identify with things like a guy who is doing well for him and may be a tad bit business oriented. As for the look, I identified with classy and the look I absolutely hate is the gangster look.

So what I did is to put those things together. I started to buy nice shirts and slacks and dress up shoes. Nice watch and some chains for the neck. Dress classy but change it a tad bit to look sexual/bad boyish. I really love this look and hopefully I'll be able to understand more about fashion sooner. This is still very new for me. I want to see how people will react to me after I have fully integrated my new look because my dress code will be congruent with who I am, hopefully :)

It looks like this Pick-Up thing is more than just picking up women. I'm definitely becoming a better person :)

What have I learned in the last month:

- disqualification is key. It makes every one laugh and it builds my confidence. Every time I DQ, I reveal that I'm not perfect yet people accepts me as a person, especially the hot girls :)

- push and pull or pull and push is great as well. I might throw a complement like "I find your artistic side of you very sexy but don't get a big head, I hate you already". Girls starts laughing. That's pull and push and I'll start with push and pull more. Say some thing like "you looked intimidating from the far but you're do down to earth so I'm glad I came here and introduced myself"

- It's not bad to do 10 sets a night. I know some guys in the community do only 1 or two sets per night but I'm not that good. So don't get upset if I have to do 10 sets a night.

- If the state is fucked up, start smiling. It will bring you back in the mood. Smiling is a powerful anchor it seems like and it will always get you into a happy state :) I lose my state this weekend and that's how I've got it back.

- Takeaways are great because it lets you go back to the set easier but you run the risk of loosing the girl or the girl talking to some other guys.

- Wear lighter colors, it will make you less intimidating.

- Walk in with a slight smile, open lips because it will get you more IOIs. It's just like the way models walk in the runway. This is huge for me. I still have trouble smiling.

- I do better when other guys are watching me and I have to defend my reputation. Then I go in with fire or 100% commitment.

A Friendly Vibe is Infectious

HAVE A WARM, FRIENDLY VIBE: Every time I've got blown out of the approach is when I didn't have a warm, friendly vibe and on top of that, I've been lacking Kino during the approach. Lately this has been happening a lot and it's becoming hard for me to approach now. I'm starting to loose the confidence I had about approaching due to the times I've gotten shut down in the past few weeks.

So, this is just a remainder, don't forget to:

HAVE A WARM/FRIENDLY VIBE AND KINO DURING APPROACHING.

WHEN I GO INTO A SET, I ONLY CARE ABOUT FINDING AMAZING THINGS ABOUT PEOPLE.

I'll go and make a note card and write this down. So I can read it before I go out and get into the right mindset.

The correct way to DQ

I've always had problems with DQ. If they're done right, people will bust out laughing and think you're down to earth. If you do them wrong, they'll think you have LSE (Low Self Esteem) and it'll be awkward for them. Until now, the majority of the time I DQed, it went wrong because I didn't know the trick to DQing until I talked with Judson yesterday.

Basically, whenever you DQ, put on a huge smile and say it like as if it is the best thing that's happening to you.

Example:

I was at the coffee place by my work, I was tired from not sleeping much last night. While I'm ordering coffee, I hear a women saying some thing about ".....bad hair, teeth falling out..." I immediate put a big grin in my face, turn around and say "Sounds like me in the morning" as if I've been waiting to say it my whole life. The two girls bust out laughing...lol

Note: If people laugh when you DQ, you're doing a great job. If they don't laugh, there is a big chance that you didn't DQ right.

Thanks Judson for giving great advice :)

A Quick Update

I haven't wrote any thing in a while but things are going great. I'm at the point where I feel confident about going out, having good interactions with women and getting their number. I just got confident about this last weekend while gaming this older lady. Our age difference was probably more than 10 years, yet I was able to game her and make her feel attraction towards me. However, I didn't completely take care of the age issue so she flaked on the phone :( If she was younger, I might have been able to pull a day2 with her.

As of right now, my game is like this:

Open: "Hi, I'm Vibe"
OEQ: "You guys are so close together. What are you guys talking about?"
Relate/Reward (Try to reward with "I like you")
Find out a passion of one girl and throw SOI "I find that sexy about you"
Throw in the second SOI. I find that attractive about you.
After than find out the relationship situation and number close.

So in a way it looks like Open - Relate/Reward -> SOI -> Relate/Reward -> SOI2 -> Gather info -> Set up a day2 -> Number close.

I think I can do this withing 10 minutes or so but I want to incorporate push-pull into the equation and make the set go for about 20 minutes. That way I will be able to get a solid number.

I'm good and I don't even know it :(

I think I ran about 5 sets last Friday and 3 of them went very well. First I opened this HBArtistic (HB7) while she was getting a drink. I just looked at her and said "How are you?" She answered, then I related and said "By the way, I'm Vibe". I was in. After running a little game, she was touching her hair like crazy. Now I know women touch their hair when they talk but doing it repeatedly must be a strong IOI. Of course my retarded self isn't that confident about attraction and setting up day2s or getting phone numbers, so I blew it. I think my worst sticking point ever is getting the number. I feel like a number without a day2 is worthless. It just doesn't feel right if I ask for the number out of no where.

The second one I opened was HBAlex(HB8). I was teasing her left and right and she did the same. Started to play with her hair crazy, I threw in the SOI and she was even more into me. Of course I didn't realize how much she was into me. Today one of my coworkers told me that I should have taken it further. "If you don't take it further in the right time, she will think you're a pussy". That was his exact comment. He has his own sense of calibration about women and I still haven't been able to grasp at it. He told me to ask her out next time. Go and say "I want to take you out to this nice Italian restaurant." He also told me, you're the man, so you have to take the lead. I'm amazed how much he learned about dating and he doesn't know any thing about the community. So the next time I'll do that.

Then I go and open this UG and talk to her for a minute. She was touching her hair like crazy too. Hmmmmm what's going on here. While I was talking to her for a little bit, my friend interrupts me and he is like stop talking to the ugly ones. There are others who look good here. But next time I'll keep doing it and ask her out directly. Lets see what's going to happen.

Saturday wasn't a good day because I felt like I've lost my voice. Every time that happens, I loose my inner game and then it's game over for me. But I did manage to get attraction from the HB9 and I even have a hard time believing it. My game is A LOT better than I think it is. I just need to to find a way to set up a date and I think I can do it soon. I probably ran around 15 sets on Saturday :) (most of them went kind of bad)....haha Damn you inner game problems.

But on the bright side, I finally believe that I have enough to game HB8 and HB9s. I think I will be able to game them consistently in the coming weeks. As for right now, the structure of vibe method will be like this.

Open -> SOI withing 5 minutes -> Ask for relationship status -> set a day2 -> Number close. I'll be working on setting up the day2 this weekend. Hopefully I can do it. I'm so close, yet so far.

Why do I need a blog?

I want to write more about my pickup experience, but I feel like a KJ(keyboard jockey: a guy who talks about seduction but never does it) when I post inside lairs. So my answer for this delima is to have a blog where I can post my experience. The good, bad and the ugly.

Some things to keep in mind are: - Always learn from the past experiences, even if it's negative - Write the field report as accurate as possible, wither good or bad - Do not brag. - Respect other peoples privacy. - Let the whole world see my flaws as a human being. - Most importantly, let this place be a place I can look back in the future and see how much I've evolved. test test test test

Time to get started and thanks for reading my very first entry. I will do my best to update this blog on a very regular basis but I'm a busy guy. I will do my best.

Help me use the Annihilation Method to Annihilate these fake gurus

Yikes, I have this fake email account where all my junk mails goes and it is full. Full of crap from these so called dating gurus. Come to think of it, dating gurus are as common as personal trainers with less social skills. I have met a shitload of them. Retards from PU101, to Mysery clowns and lets not forget the whiners from Charisma Arts, but at least they are legitimate. They work for a reputable company and believe they can help out losers who have not learned to be a man yet. No matter how many bootcamps they take, I don't think they will ever get it. They were not normal and will never be normal. Now I'm pretty convinced that if you didn't learn how to be normal when you were a kid, you will never learn it when you grow up. If you're past 30 and trying to learn social skills, forget it. You'll end up miserable. I would suggest them to pick up a hobby, may be blogging!

Anyways, to get back to my point. I was wondering if any of these people really make money. Being the detective I am, I signed up for clickbank and did my research. MY hypotheses was right. They didn't make jack shit and neither the clowns who teach seminars about how to make money. Guys, just because you see people paying 1000s of dollars for bootcamps, does not mean you will make that much with your retarded business. Now I had my share of women without the diseases, but if any of you gurus want me to review your product, let me know. Put your money where you mouth is. I will write an honest review and post it in my blog but I don't think any one would be up for the challenge :(