Clothing

Believe it or not, clothing can have a dramatic affect on your game. I didn't really believe it at first but now I do. Everyone talks about it so I'm surprised why I haven't pick this one up. I realized that some of my friends with less game than me get great reactions when they're wearing nice clothes and a lot worse reactions when they're wearing not so cool stuff. With clothing, there are several components you want to look at.

First there are different looks and you need a look that is congruent with you. Here are some examples of looks: Gothic, preppy, gangster, classy, cowboy, surfer, artsy, sporty and the things go on.

On top of that, there are things like who you are. These are the things in your identity. Are you a bad boy, business man, a family guy, a pro athlete, a body builder, a dancer and so on.

For me, on the identity I picked the bad boy. I'm into martial arts, riding bikes, not afraid to get into fights, and a lot of things that I would consider to be bad boy. But I'm not a bad boy completely. I also identify with things like a guy who is doing well for him and may be a tad bit business oriented. As for the look, I identified with classy and the look I absolutely hate is the gangster look.

So what I did is to put those things together. I started to buy nice shirts and slacks and dress up shoes. Nice watch and some chains for the neck. Dress classy but change it a tad bit to look sexual/bad boyish. I really love this look and hopefully I'll be able to understand more about fashion sooner. This is still very new for me. I want to see how people will react to me after I have fully integrated my new look because my dress code will be congruent with who I am, hopefully :)

It looks like this Pick-Up thing is more than just picking up women. I'm definitely becoming a better person :)

What have I learned in the last month:

- disqualification is key. It makes every one laugh and it builds my confidence. Every time I DQ, I reveal that I'm not perfect yet people accepts me as a person, especially the hot girls :)

- push and pull or pull and push is great as well. I might throw a complement like "I find your artistic side of you very sexy but don't get a big head, I hate you already". Girls starts laughing. That's pull and push and I'll start with push and pull more. Say some thing like "you looked intimidating from the far but you're do down to earth so I'm glad I came here and introduced myself"

- It's not bad to do 10 sets a night. I know some guys in the community do only 1 or two sets per night but I'm not that good. So don't get upset if I have to do 10 sets a night.

- If the state is fucked up, start smiling. It will bring you back in the mood. Smiling is a powerful anchor it seems like and it will always get you into a happy state :) I lose my state this weekend and that's how I've got it back.

- Takeaways are great because it lets you go back to the set easier but you run the risk of loosing the girl or the girl talking to some other guys.

- Wear lighter colors, it will make you less intimidating.

- Walk in with a slight smile, open lips because it will get you more IOIs. It's just like the way models walk in the runway. This is huge for me. I still have trouble smiling.

- I do better when other guys are watching me and I have to defend my reputation. Then I go in with fire or 100% commitment.

A Friendly Vibe is Infectious

HAVE A WARM, FRIENDLY VIBE: Every time I've got blown out of the approach is when I didn't have a warm, friendly vibe and on top of that, I've been lacking Kino during the approach. Lately this has been happening a lot and it's becoming hard for me to approach now. I'm starting to loose the confidence I had about approaching due to the times I've gotten shut down in the past few weeks.

So, this is just a remainder, don't forget to:

HAVE A WARM/FRIENDLY VIBE AND KINO DURING APPROACHING.

WHEN I GO INTO A SET, I ONLY CARE ABOUT FINDING AMAZING THINGS ABOUT PEOPLE.

I'll go and make a note card and write this down. So I can read it before I go out and get into the right mindset.

The correct way to DQ

I've always had problems with DQ. If they're done right, people will bust out laughing and think you're down to earth. If you do them wrong, they'll think you have LSE (Low Self Esteem) and it'll be awkward for them. Until now, the majority of the time I DQed, it went wrong because I didn't know the trick to DQing until I talked with Judson yesterday.

Basically, whenever you DQ, put on a huge smile and say it like as if it is the best thing that's happening to you.

Example:

I was at the coffee place by my work, I was tired from not sleeping much last night. While I'm ordering coffee, I hear a women saying some thing about ".....bad hair, teeth falling out..." I immediate put a big grin in my face, turn around and say "Sounds like me in the morning" as if I've been waiting to say it my whole life. The two girls bust out laughing...lol

Note: If people laugh when you DQ, you're doing a great job. If they don't laugh, there is a big chance that you didn't DQ right.

Thanks Judson for giving great advice :)

A Quick Update

I haven't wrote any thing in a while but things are going great. I'm at the point where I feel confident about going out, having good interactions with women and getting their number. I just got confident about this last weekend while gaming this older lady. Our age difference was probably more than 10 years, yet I was able to game her and make her feel attraction towards me. However, I didn't completely take care of the age issue so she flaked on the phone :( If she was younger, I might have been able to pull a day2 with her.

As of right now, my game is like this:

Open: "Hi, I'm Vibe"
OEQ: "You guys are so close together. What are you guys talking about?"
Relate/Reward (Try to reward with "I like you")
Find out a passion of one girl and throw SOI "I find that sexy about you"
Throw in the second SOI. I find that attractive about you.
After than find out the relationship situation and number close.

So in a way it looks like Open - Relate/Reward -> SOI -> Relate/Reward -> SOI2 -> Gather info -> Set up a day2 -> Number close.

I think I can do this withing 10 minutes or so but I want to incorporate push-pull into the equation and make the set go for about 20 minutes. That way I will be able to get a solid number.

I'm good and I don't even know it :(

I think I ran about 5 sets last Friday and 3 of them went very well. First I opened this HBArtistic (HB7) while she was getting a drink. I just looked at her and said "How are you?" She answered, then I related and said "By the way, I'm Vibe". I was in. After running a little game, she was touching her hair like crazy. Now I know women touch their hair when they talk but doing it repeatedly must be a strong IOI. Of course my retarded self isn't that confident about attraction and setting up day2s or getting phone numbers, so I blew it. I think my worst sticking point ever is getting the number. I feel like a number without a day2 is worthless. It just doesn't feel right if I ask for the number out of no where.

The second one I opened was HBAlex(HB8). I was teasing her left and right and she did the same. Started to play with her hair crazy, I threw in the SOI and she was even more into me. Of course I didn't realize how much she was into me. Today one of my coworkers told me that I should have taken it further. "If you don't take it further in the right time, she will think you're a pussy". That was his exact comment. He has his own sense of calibration about women and I still haven't been able to grasp at it. He told me to ask her out next time. Go and say "I want to take you out to this nice Italian restaurant." He also told me, you're the man, so you have to take the lead. I'm amazed how much he learned about dating and he doesn't know any thing about the community. So the next time I'll do that.

Then I go and open this UG and talk to her for a minute. She was touching her hair like crazy too. Hmmmmm what's going on here. While I was talking to her for a little bit, my friend interrupts me and he is like stop talking to the ugly ones. There are others who look good here. But next time I'll keep doing it and ask her out directly. Lets see what's going to happen.

Saturday wasn't a good day because I felt like I've lost my voice. Every time that happens, I loose my inner game and then it's game over for me. But I did manage to get attraction from the HB9 and I even have a hard time believing it. My game is A LOT better than I think it is. I just need to to find a way to set up a date and I think I can do it soon. I probably ran around 15 sets on Saturday :) (most of them went kind of bad)....haha Damn you inner game problems.

But on the bright side, I finally believe that I have enough to game HB8 and HB9s. I think I will be able to game them consistently in the coming weeks. As for right now, the structure of vibe method will be like this.

Open -> SOI withing 5 minutes -> Ask for relationship status -> set a day2 -> Number close. I'll be working on setting up the day2 this weekend. Hopefully I can do it. I'm so close, yet so far.

Why do I need a blog?

I want to write more about my pickup experience, but I feel like a KJ(keyboard jockey: a guy who talks about seduction but never does it) when I post inside lairs. So my answer for this delima is to have a blog where I can post my experience. The good, bad and the ugly.

Some things to keep in mind are: - Always learn from the past experiences, even if it's negative - Write the field report as accurate as possible, wither good or bad - Do not brag. - Respect other peoples privacy. - Let the whole world see my flaws as a human being. - Most importantly, let this place be a place I can look back in the future and see how much I've evolved. test test test test

Time to get started and thanks for reading my very first entry. I will do my best to update this blog on a very regular basis but I'm a busy guy. I will do my best.

Help me use the Annihilation Method to Annihilate these fake gurus

Yikes, I have this fake email account where all my junk mails goes and it is full. Full of crap from these so called dating gurus. Come to think of it, dating gurus are as common as personal trainers with less social skills. I have met a shitload of them. Retards from PU101, to Mysery clowns and lets not forget the whiners from Charisma Arts, but at least they are legitimate. They work for a reputable company and believe they can help out losers who have not learned to be a man yet. No matter how many bootcamps they take, I don't think they will ever get it. They were not normal and will never be normal. Now I'm pretty convinced that if you didn't learn how to be normal when you were a kid, you will never learn it when you grow up. If you're past 30 and trying to learn social skills, forget it. You'll end up miserable. I would suggest them to pick up a hobby, may be blogging!

Anyways, to get back to my point. I was wondering if any of these people really make money. Being the detective I am, I signed up for clickbank and did my research. MY hypotheses was right. They didn't make jack shit and neither the clowns who teach seminars about how to make money. Guys, just because you see people paying 1000s of dollars for bootcamps, does not mean you will make that much with your retarded business. Now I had my share of women without the diseases, but if any of you gurus want me to review your product, let me know. Put your money where you mouth is. I will write an honest review and post it in my blog but I don't think any one would be up for the challenge :(