Welcome to my Blog. It describes the struggle I went from being an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) to a PUA (Pick Up Artist). Even though I don't consider myself a pick up artist, I definitely got skills to put a lot of guys to shame. I have overcome a lot of things from approach anxiety to learning how to get ONS (one night stands). My knowledge is shared on this blog, for free. Everyone is welcome to read it and improve their life.
So I was browsing around and ran into this pay and we deliver you a sexy Russian bride website. I must say, it's a neat idea. I mean, for one thing, we don't have to deal with the bitchy attitudes of women the US. If you don't live in a city like Miami, LA or Scottsdale, then you have to deal with fat, bitchy women. No one has time for that and therefore, this whole Russian Bride thing seems like a great idea.
At first, I thought that this could be expensive but it's really not. I mean, I have spent 100s of dollars on dates that has gotten no where. If I invested that money on a Russian Bride, I would have been a much happier man because they're pretty and I have a thing for blonds. All the reason to go for one. It would be even better if it were Brazilian women, because I like them too.
That's right, you've read it. I have a new years resolution. It's not about money, status or any thing important. It's just to score a 3-some with twins. Wohoo...... With this new years resolution, I feel like I'm shooting for the moon. Time will tell if I will achieve my goals. I'll keep you guys updated on it.
Until then, don't be an angry sour grape. Work your magic and score a hottie.
There is only one simple answer for this. It is because I'm bored to death. My new job doesn't start till next year and I have nothing to do until that time other than going on many many many dates. If anyone wants me to write about a certain subject, please leave a comment. I welcome smart ass, awesome comments :) They give me energy to blog even more.
Am I the only one who is disappointed by the fact that Brat Pitt is with Angelina Jolie? A lot of people think she is hot, but I don't this she is. Take a look at this shocking pictures.
I have never met Angelina and probably never will, but I personally think Jennifer Aniston is a much better choice. Better choice because she seems like a normal human being and Angelina to me seems like a ghost from a horror movie. Even though I like the fact that Angelina Jolie is so much into charity, her weirdness just creeps me out a little bit.
I just came back from a date with one of the hottest girls i picked up and she told me that one of the most searched keywords in google is "how to kill my wife". I had a couple of drinks on me so don't quote on on the exact phrase but that got me thinking. Why would some one want to kill their wife? I admit, if she was an ugly cougar, i could understand. You can't be a man and deal with that crap. Especially if she is past 30 and have wrinkles because that means they're way pass their prime.
Being a civilized citizen, I'm all against any kind of violence, weather it is against humans, animals or Canadians. But why try to kill the wife when you can cheat on her? I have many friends who have done that and I have been more than dishonest at times by dating more than one woman.
If you're seriously considering killing your wife, A visit to "www.ashleymadison.com" will change you life forever! However; make sure you don't long on to "www.match.com" and contact potential dates while you're married. One of my coworkers did that and got caught. Got to be discrete when having multiple women in your life, but that's for another post.
I've been really pushing it to date some women who are amazingly beautiful and I've learned a few harsh lessons.
Generally, there is more competition for really beautiful women. At least it has been true for the ones I meet and sometimes gaming them can be a pain in the ass. Each and every time, I had to compete with cockblockers just so i can get some alone time with them. Some of these cockblockers are horrible as well. They try to come in and ignore you and talk to the girl. A big mistake amateurs make and it is really annoying as well.
I've been able to get four numbers in the last month with these types of women. Talked to them on average for about 15-30 minutes. Now closing less attractive girls seems like a piece of cake.
The first thing I learned when closing attractive women is what Juggler used to say, "Every hot girl has a boyfriend or two." This is totally true. It's not easy to find a hot chick who has no BF. Of the 4 numbers I've closed, 2 of them are living with boyfriends and I suspect the other 2 are getting laid by someone as well (sigh). The two with boyfriends are in bad relationships so I think I could still get them out to see me. We'll see what will happen. Generally speaking, get good with destroying the BF and being non-reactive when they mention the BF. When you compete in this league, you've got to have your shit together. That's why you don't see many lair guys with one hot girl after the other. This shit is really, really tough. I'm having a hard time with this as well.
The second thing I learned is that Day 2 ASAP. This is a must. When other people are competing against you, you want to be the guy who builds the most rapport. Attraction is like radioactive material with a short half-life. You want to get her out when she is still thinking about you, but this can be tough with schedules. You have to compromise--don't expect her to. Also, text them on a regular basis. You have to be in her mind more than the other guys. On a different perspective, why does every one know Coca-Cola? It's because they spend so much time advertising. You've got to do the same.
The third thing, trigger pre-selection over and over again. This is your most powerful weapon with attractive women. Try to have 2 girls or one on your arm. If you can demonstrate to her that other women are into you, things will become a lot easier. Sometimes I talk to these women and things are going nowhere. They've been hit on by many other people. You've got to stand out.
The fourth thing, run LONG sets. Fuck the 5 minute number closes. They don't work with attractive women. Guess David Deangelo has been dating some nasty ones with that technique. Run the set as long as you can. Closing 1 hot girl is equal to closing 100 ugly ones.
Mystery is definitely right when he says hotties are different. I would say hotties who have been well socialized are a complete different breed.
There is a secret to opening during the day and I've uncovered it while I was day gaming this weekend with a friend of mine. Actually, it's not a secret. I'm sure many people have discovered it in the past. I've got most of my ideas from juggler, so credit should go to him.
Here is the way I open during day.
1) Make a comment about her environment that she will immediately get 2) Wait for a response 3) Try to get her laughing really fast 4) Tell her you like her
Example of how things are done:
I notice a woman look at books at a table, and on that table there is a sign that says "Buy 2, get the 3rd one for free". I walk up to her and make a comment:
Vibe: All these cheap books... (After I do this, I wait for her response. She will usually respond)
Her: I know, isn't it crazy.
Vibe: I know, it is. Now I can buy and even more books and not read them.
Her: She laughs... I have so many books that I didn't finish either. Some times I get bored of them.
Vibe: Sounds like you read a lot. I like you :)
Her: [She drops her defences, I'm in]
This is how to get into a conversation with her. If you notice any hesitation after doing this, it's time to get more info. In bookstores, I usually ask "Who are you here with?". Lots of times women are with their BFs there.
I was wondering around town last weekend and ran into few community guys. Luckily, they didn't know who I was but I could tell they were in the community. Why? because they were trying to copy Mystery but ended up looking like clowns. Of course, they walked home without a date. What a surprise!
At the same time, I realized they're newbies and every one goes through that stage where they discover the community and act retarded. But what got me really pissed off is when one of these retards told me to smile and showed me how to smile? Wtf! I couldn't believe that. Every one is born with the ability to smile and sadly for him, he had yellow teeth. So his smile grossed me out even more.
The community should be a place where people learn to be better with people. Giving people advice when they don't ask for it is a sure sign that you need to work on this part. Learn when to give advice and when not to, and the funny thing is that people who doesn't know shit and have the least skill, gives the most advice! Guess it makes them feel important.
Anyways, that's it for today and I'm back to blogging again. Have learned too many things the last week and I realized that there is so much more room for improvements in my game. I'll share my insights here for people who wants to read it. Plus it feels good to go back and read my old posts and see how much I've changed. Until then, do me a favor and read Brad P's Fashion Bible! The information there will help you guys find a style that fits you. Find a sexual stereotype that is irresistibly attractive women.
It has been one of my goals to get to the point where I can "sarge" alone and end up with girls.
At first I advocated going out with friends and having fun. This used to put me in a great social mood. I would have no AA and be totally high energy. This was the past. After a while I realized that having friends around me actually screwed me more. Then I started to work alone and learned to get pass the fear of having no one to back me up. This is why guys are afraid to go out alone. They are afraid of being seen alone and all the community jargon doesn't help. Most the gurus are saying the same old crap they learned from Mystery. Have social proof etc.
I actually have a different argument. Being seen alone is not bad. It's only bad if you're uncomfortable. If you're relaxed and have a good vibe, girls will actually open you. Not saying girls will open you all the time but it they will here and there. Here and there is not good at all, so that's why you need to have to balls to make a move.
The hardest part working alone is definitely two sets but I use different strategies when I'm alone. I look for two sets where one guy has opened a girl and the other one is bored. These are golden opportunities. Only thing I have to do is open the girl and I'm in.
Another thing I look for is an open seat. In certain venues (Not going to say which, you have to figure that out in your own), having a seat next to your target will be the different between a friendly chat and a soild number.
Another things I'm looking for are sets where I can get into a powerful position. It's usually where I can lean against some thing. This will also make it easier to get a solid number because sets stick a lot better ones i'm locked in.
What I'm not looking for when I'm out alone are sets that are just standing around in walk ways or in the middle of no where. Sure, I have worked sets like this before but for the most part, they didn't go any where. I wont bother opening these sets unless other guys are talking to the girls and I can go and befriend them. Even then, these sets wont be the best because i wont be able to lock myself in a powerful way.
So what happens if I don't find a good set to open? I just chill by the bar and people watch. Watch for good opportunities to get in and close. I've gotten to a point where I can just smell which sets open and which wont. Some sets wont open right the moment i look at them but it will open 5 minutes later when the mood of the group changes or body position of certain group members changes. Some set will never open for me. Fuck them!!!!!! I wont waste my time with them. What I'm learning right now is not to work harder, but smarter.
In the end, no matter what people say, the best thing a guy can do is some to a point where if he opens enough sets, he'll get laid. If he gets enough numbers, he'll get laid.
One thing that stood out for me is "What has to change is your actions. What has to change is your habits."
This has been true for me but I see it in a different light. I'm always on auto pilot. Even in social interactions. It used to be that I would open and have fun. My sets would do well but I wasn't closing. It's like every night I went out, opened left and right, and leave empty handed. That was my auto pilot mode. I really had to take conscious steps to break out of it. I had to force myself to change my auto pilot mode and start closing. I'm still in auto pilot when it comes to day2s and so on. I still need to consciously tell myself, go on day2s, but it's hard. I hate sacrificing a day at the gym for a stupid day2.
"You will never have true confidence by telling yourself over and over and over that you are confident. You will never have confidence by reading a thousand books or going to a thousand workshops. The only way to get true confidence is by going out and doing it over and over. It doesn’t sound easy, does it? Maybe that’s the point."
Amen! Guys who believe in girls being already sold should read this over and over again. You can tell your self, "she wants to fuck me" to make yourself feel like the man, to make your self feel powerful, but in reality, being already sold doesn't matter shit. There is so much more you have to do from opening to close. I would argue that the guys who believes this doesn't get laid that much. If they did, they wouldn't be proud when a girl has high buying temperature. All of them have false confidcence.
Just like you'll never have true confidence in approaching until you do it a thousand times and you'll never be truly confident in pickup until you banged a shitload of women. There will always be doubts in your head about your abilities and how much choice you have with women. All of you, stop these delusions about already being sold and all game is inner game. If you don't have choice in women, you have no game and no amount of reframing can help you.
I haven't been online in a while and just read some forums. It's sad to say but I think I've gotten my dosage of Bullshit for the next couple of years.
Guys, leave these fucking forums!!!!!!! It's pathetic. It's filled with crap. If you have no wings, go there, find some cool wings and then don't go there anymore.
I checked all the forums. Charm school, VA as well as the local forums and the worse thing was about a guy who keeps fucking the same UG even though she's got a STD. How desperate can someones get? Why would a man of choice ever do that? Wait, it probably means he's got no choice. He is so desperate that he'll take any thing he can get.
This is a prime example about the quality of guys posting in forums. If I'd ever invent a cast system, I'd place him right below the primates. Wait, I take it back. Cast systems are bad. Sorry for my strange idea.
At the same time, forums can be good too. I've been part of them for a while and I still check them here and there when friends tell me about interesting posts. I've met some cool people as well as some creepy midgets body builders as a result of these forums. My advice for normal guys, if you want wings, contact some people, meet them and if any of them smell weird, DO NOT HANG OUT WITH THEM. If they seem normal, make friends and hang out. Just so you know, you've got to meet a lot of guys until you find some one normal. There is probably 1 cool guy for ever 9 retards.
One of the most overlooked things in a pick up is silence. Most guys think it's a bad thing and do their best to avoid those uncomfortable moments of silences. I used to hate it too. I did every thing in my power to avoid it and it meant being quick on my feet and PLOWing until my mouth falls off but not anymore.
Now, I open directly, full of commitment and get her involved in a conversation. After I talk to her for few minutes, I stop and just look at her. I have carried the burden of conversation until this point. It's time for her to do that. It's time for her to come up with the next lame question to ask me. Let her sweat a little bit. Nervousness and the pressure she is feeling is good. She will has to work for me and the more effort she puts in asking me questions, the better it is and the more committed she will be. No other guy will do this!
This is super important for guys who are in set for a while but has trouble getting solid numbers. The more effort she puts it, the more solid the number is. If the only thing you do is palm reading and talking about Britney Spears, good luck with the solid numbers.
The bad part about her asking questions during those silences is that those questions will be "yes" and "no" questions. When she asks those, i have to be able to come up with some thing more than "yes" or "no".
Ex: Me: [looks at her] She: [thinks of a question to ask me] She: So did you eat Pizza in Italy. Me: Yeah, I ate a ton of pizza. My favorite was surprisingly this tuna pizza. I know it sounds gross but I still remember it to this day. May be they put crack in it I mean it has to be really tasty and addicting if I remember it 12 years later.
I've been lazy and just finishing off some day2s. I want to lay them and meet some new ones but it's Friday. I just want to go out and try to pull a girl back home. Will I succeed, probably not, but I'm sure I'll meet some one or most likely get a solid number.
Also, I want to start doing some day game again. It's so much easier to pull hot girls in day time than nights. With hot girls I mean girls who are 21+ with careers, not the 18 year olds people try to pull at club 131. Yes, I know who you are :P Going for the easy prey because you've got no game.
And last but not least, I've been doing a great job at avoiding community guys. I'll continue to do that because most community guys are not that swanky. They should really work on being one of the cool guys. If they can hang on with other cool guys, they should start working on pulling some hotties.
I was annoyed by this one community guy last week. He has major AA, thinks he is the shit, banged 4 fat chicks, talks and talks and he is a really bad wing to have because no girls with any value will like him. So he came into my set, pretended to know me so he can get in and sat down next to me in the couch. As soon as he sat down, I'm thinking in my head "Get the fuck away". Pick up is all about being flexible, thinking quick in your feet, so I immediately back turned and ignored him completely. The last thing I want is a chode in my set. Remember, secret society "However, rules state that if if the non-member is "creepy/scary" (kinos too much, leans in too much, asks dumb questions, tries too hard to impress, overqualifies), then the male member will be expected to return either alone or with another male member."
This is totally true. If you have a lot of skill, the worst thing that can happen to you is this. A guy with no skill comes in and ruins it for you. This happened to me many times and frankly, I'm sick of it. That's why I like to go alone these days but I have too many friends and that doesn't happen often. What makes things worse is after me back turning, he still sat there like a retard for 20 minutes and here and there he tried to talk to my target. That's unacceptable.
So who was this member? Try to make a guess but if I'll make one promise. If I ever see your rude self in set, I will come in too and chances are that I will get the girl you're talking to. It's time you taste your own medicine and learn to respect others.
[CHORUS: Ne-Yo] I'm a movement by myself. But I'm a force when we're together. Mami I'm good all by myself. But baby you, you make me better. You make me better. You make me better. You make me better. You make me better. You make me better. You make me better. You make me better. You make me better.
[Fabolous] You plus me, it equals better math. Ya boy a good look but, she my better half. I'm already bossin', already flossin'. But why I have the cake if it ain't got the sweet frostin'? (yep yep yep yep). Keepin' me on my A game (what what what what). Wit'out havin' the same name (that that that that that). It may fling (but but but but). But shawty, we burn it up. It's sag in my swag, pimp in my step. Daddy do the Gucci, mami intercepts. Guess it's a G thing, whenever we swing. I'ma need Coretta Scott, if I'm gon' be King.
[CHORUS]
[Ne-Yo] First thing's first, I does what I do. But everything I am, she's my improve. I'm already boss, I'm already fly. But if I'm a star, she is the sky (ahh ahh ahh). And when I feel like I'm on top (she she she). She give me reason to not stop (eh eh eh eh eh). And though I'm hot (too too too). Together we burn it up.
[Fabolous] The caked up cut, the cleaned up ice. The shawty come around, I clean up nice. Diamond McDuo, Batman, Robin. Whoever don't like it, it's that man problem (eh eh eh). And when I feel like I'm tired (ma ma ma). Mami be takin' me higher (ah ah ah ah ah). I'm on fire (but but but). But shawty we burn it up.
[CHORUS]
[Voices] Inside every great man, you can find a woman like a soldier holdin' him down.
[Fabolous] And she treats me like a dawg, watches for the hit. Checks where I go, even watches who I'm wit. The right when I'm wrong, so I never slip. Show me how to move, that's why I never trip. And baby girl, you so major, they should front-page ya (front page ya). God bless the parents who made ya (who made ya). Middle fingered anybody who hate the, Way that we burn it up.
[CHORUS]
[Fabolous speaking] Yeah baby, them lames you playin' wit. They gon' put you down. We tryin' to compliment ya, you know? Make it better. Top-notch Tim. Nice-look Ne-Yo. Livin' good low soul. They ask you how you doin' now, tell 'em better 'den them. Ha ha ha ha ha ha.
It's when large percentage of the girls go nuts with their hair after they meet you. They throw IOIs like crazy. If met through a friend from social circle (or a safe way in), the overwhelming majority of girls will do this.
It's when you talk and they turn to their friend and say "he is good".
It's when they accuse you of being a player.
The best compliment a girl can give me is to call me a "Player". I love this and it's starting to happen quiet often to me now. Then again, it might be a fluke. I'll wait and see how often this happens before I get a big head.
Woke up today weighing in at 194 pounds and also dehydrated. Funny thing is that if I didn't drink or go out this weekend, I would have been around 192.5 or so. I love/hate the weekends. Love it because I always meet a girl and hate it because I always gain a pound or two.
I'll try to cut down on my eating and drinking next weekend and really push to go down to around 191. My ideal weight would be around 180 pounds. If I drop to 170, I'll be shredded.
I recently heard of a funny story. It's funny and sad. A community guy was in set and he ran into a non responsive girl. Of course, him being a total social retard, he said to her "You're boring".
This is not a fly thing to do. Boy, if I got a penny every time i saw some thing retarded like that, i'd have enough money to buy one of you a drink. Of course, that would break another pathetic community rule, so I wouldn't do that (sigh).
This is why community guys never improve and one of the reasons I decided to stay away from them. Guys really need to learn how to be normal before reading a book about seduction and really think twice about throwing negs. I've heard too many stories of these idiots getting kicked out of clubs. At the same time, I've done things like this too and I can totally relate to it. I have messed up on many different occasions but after a while, I developed social calibration and this shit never happened.
Recently I read a TD article where he said that after a while, your social skills will be at a point where no one can keep up with you. Every thing you say is so socially calibrated and this is so true. I've personally witnessed this when I was helping the SocialHitchHiker in his bootcamps. The things that comes out of his mouth are really amazing that's one reason why I love that guy. Every time we hang out, I get newer insights into things.
Here is an example of his social calibration:
Single Mom: .... and that why I don't go out very often because I don't have much time.
SocialHitchHiker: I know what you're talking about. I used to date a single mom and she was really busy with her kids. She had to cook for them and drop them of to school and it was always special when she found some time to go out. [The delivery of this was amazing]
Single Mom: [Feel understood, she feels special and opens up to him even more]
Vibe: [Thinking "damn, I should have said that". This is where I gained a deeper understanding about what social calibration is and ever since then, i've been trying to say things that are socially to the point. This is also another proof that all game is not inner game.]
Calibration is another reason why guys who use routines tend to do horribly. Most community guys are horribly socially calibrated and when a person like that uses routines, they spit out the routine at bad times and creep out every one.
My point is, learn how to offer social value by making every thing a "hit". I'm not there yet but doing my best to get there. Do this and all the girls in your social circle will love you and you'll be able to at least #close every time you go out.
It's been about a week and again, it's time for the song of the week. This one is from Cascada - Everytime We Touch. I think she is German and just to let you guy on a juicy secret, Awesome, Seattle's biggest asshole is in love with this song. He has a soft heart after all and i think he's gonna hate me for publicly stating this....muahahahahahah
I still hear your voice, when you sleep next to me. I still feel your touch in my dreams. Forgive me my weakness, but I don't know why Without you it's hard to survive.
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling. And every time we kiss I swear I could fly. Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last. Need you by my side. 'Cause every time we touch, I feel this static. And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky. Can't you hear my heart beat so... I can't let you go. Want you in my life.
Your arms are my castle, your heart is my sky. They wipe away tears that I cry.
The good and the bad times, we've been through them all. You make me rise when I fall.
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling. And every time we kiss I swear I could fly. Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last. Need you by my side. 'Cause every time we touch, I feel this static. And every time we kiss, I reach for the sky. Can't you hear my heart beat so... I can't let you go. Want you in my life.
'Cause every time we touch, I get this feeling. And every time we kiss I swear I could fly. Can't you feel my heart beat fast, I want this to last. Need you by my side.
